Watch both videos and comment below your opinion on the 90 day rule
I have a book coming in the summer called “How To Be Save Your Marriage”. I have worked hard writing this book and now I finally found a publishing agency that will accept my work and I am so happy right now. When you work hard and remain patient and don’t give up, good things will come.
My book entails 101 tips on what to do and what not to do in order to be a good husband but in this blog I will list 13 main points I focus on in book
1) Calmy explain to your wife that wedding anniversaries are overrated and that its not necessary to celebrate them.
2) Tell your wife since you as a man pay the mortgage, she had to do all the driving.
3) Tell your wife that she can not wake you up in the middle of the night for sex and if she does, you will ask for a divorce.
4) Tell your wife that its not necessary to hold hands in public and that’s only in the dating stage.
5) Tell your wife that you don’t want her to submit because you aren’t her father and you believe in equal rights and she can be head of household.
6) Tell your wife that spending is not necessary because the kids comes first always
7) Tell your wife that she has to only cook for the kids because you will eat at your mother’s house.
8) Tell your wife that your mother comes first and that if your mother need you, you have to be there for her.
9) Tell your wife that you believe oral sex is extremely disrespectful and it should never happen and that foreplay is not necessary.
10) Tell your wife that you and her can’t be naked at the same time in each other’s presence. Hell, she can’t even been seen in bra and panties in your presence and she must go to the bathroom and lock the door to get change.
11) Tell your wife that she must ask you permission at all time before she give you a kiss.
12) Tell your wife that sex will only take place in the bedroom behind close doors only once a year.
13) Tell your wife that you won’t be affectionate around her and that its not necessary to caress her.
These are the key pointers to save any marriage and I wish everybody a prosperous marriage.
“Take as long as you want”,
Hmm is this statement overrated?
Even the strongest lungs aren’t perfect.
I know that has nothing to do with this,
but think about it for a minute.
Let your conscience visit for a second
When you say “Take as long as you want”
do you really mean it?
Does patience exist forever or does it
began to vanish?
It’s hard to abandon the ones you love
or the ones that mean well and giving it
eveything they got, but
what if it never get better?
Are u going to help that person forever?
Are you going to stay around that person forever?
Do you know anything on this planet that last forever?
Well have you ever written a love letter?
After you written that love letter did you get rejected after?
Your heart just experinced a disaster.
You gave everything you got but it still didn’t get better.
Here are some provided examples:
Imagine as a woman being with a man that can’t obtain an erection.
Its the beginning of a relationship, he gets embrassed, but you work with him to fix.
But it’s almost 2 years and still don’t notice a difference.
Its still the same shit.
He visited a urologist, received cialis, but erections are still non-existent.
So in this case 2 years later, would you still have patience even though you love him?
Would you reminisce the amazing sexual intercourse from you exes?
Would start to wish that your current boyfriend had the confidence like your ex boyfriend?
Your ex-boyfriend calls you, would you reject his call or would you answer it?
Vice versa as man being with a woman that want to pratice abstinence.
She necessarily don’t want to wait before marriage, but she want you to be patient
since she had really bad experiences in her previous relationships.
Its been 3 years, you know her deepest secrets, she tell you everything about her personal busniess, you seen her in her weakest moments, you wiped the tears,
you always tell her how much you care,
ya hold hands in public, you treat her like a queen in private, you showed her that in this world, they are true gentleman, and no matter how much lust dwells within the hemispheres of your brain, you continue to remain patient agaian and again.
Hell, you barely even had the chance to caress her, and you know sex is something you been wanting to have with her, so you finally approach the idea of sex with her, telling here that you are ready take it to the next level, but she says she still don’t feel comfortable with you to take it to the bedroom, and she need more time.
You say its okay I understand , no problem that’s fine.
But is it really fine or are you lying?
Are you willing to wait 3 more years?
Are you willing to wait 2 more years?
Is this really fair?
Would you abandon the one you love even though you care?
Put yourself in their shoes and ask yourself is this true.
If you gave it everything you got but still wasn’t getting it, would you want that person trying help you abandon you?
Do you know what it feels like to have somebody give up on you?
After reading this poem, I provided some questions for you to think about:
1) How do you truly know that you are ready to have sex with your signficant other? Is being comfortable a good enough reason to have sex or is there more to it?
2) If you boyfriend you have been with for a while, is having a hard time obtaining an erection and he tried everything from visiting the urologist and taking medications but nothing is working, could this affect your relationship?
3) Does being too patient get you hurt in the long run?
4) What is one thing no matter how hard you try that you just couldn’t accomplish?
5) Does hardwork really pay off?
Pick two out of fivethe questions that caught your interest the most and comment below?
Listen to this episode of my podcast, Spoken Word Poet, Sex https://anchor.fm/david-hockaday7/episodes/Sex-e44ach
- Have any of you ever read the Steve Harvey book “Act like a lady, Think like a man” book?
- Is 90 day too long to wait for sex?
- Is 90 day too soon to have sex?
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A dream or nightmare I can’t distinguish.
Confusing as the semen is leaking.
These erotic images keep appearing.
Practicing intense fuck sessions
but yet what is the lesson?
I’m happily married is what I believe
until I see her and she sees me.
When I say her, I’m talking about my neighbor.
Lust is a motherfucka and I’m a sucka
Blind towards true love,
and borderline of breaking trust
like a tinted window.
Cum stains on the pillow
irritates wifey for neglecting her needs.
She see’s right through my excuses.
Me being exhausted, she not having it.
She suggest that we seek counseling
but I know what the problem is.
My wifey is no longer attractive.
The weight gain on her belly
The stretch mark on the back
of her neck is prominent.
She is physically not the woman
I fell in love with
In which makes me jealous
of my sexy ass neighbors punk ass 5ft5 husband.
Jealously make my cum shots explosive
like a erupting kilauea volcano.
For months straight jerking off
on my polyester sheets and pillows
is the absence of good hardcore fucking
for the past 3 months straight
and plus my wife got rid of the spice channels.
She hates it when I watch porno.
Now, I fell in love with wifey because of the blowjobs.
My cum she swallows more than
a new employee at a correctional facility
retaining information from the warden.
My kids were more than the average women
can chew, but wifey just swallows every drop
like a restroom hand dryer.
But years ago when I first met wifey
she was so much sexier.
The curves, the softness, ivory skin, eyes metallic,
the bond between us, shit the average person
could see how cohesive it was between us.
She made me come outta my shell
like a valence electron
since my thinking was negative like
the charge of electrons.
That was a few years back
and now the sex is wack.
The mood is mundane in the bedroom.
Our sex life is doomed
but I take full responsibility
because till this day my wifey try her hardest to please me
but swallowing my cum bucket of kids
don’t mean shit after she swallows it
because her stomach fat is still visible.
And last night she got the nerve to ask me
to take her shirt off since she was hot.
I immediately lost the hardness on my cock.
I lied and I told her I was getting nauseous.
She asked me
“What the issue,
you don’t fuck me like you use to
you don’t kiss me like you use to
you don’t caress me in public like you use too
you be ignoring my naughty text messages,
you refuse when I offer you back massages,
you stop asking ask for blowjobs,
I have to beg you just to finger pop,
I have to beg you to lick the cherry,
and you haven’t wrote me poems lately.
I am your lady and even though
I love you for you and sex is not the most important thing,
in marriage sex is still a priority.
I miss how you use to stroke me roughly,
I miss how you use to pull my hair,
I miss you how you use fuck me into tears,
I remember at least 2 or 3 times you fucked me
and you wouldn’t stop until the neighbors would hear
to make them jealous.
But ever since the old neighbors moved out
and the new neighbors moved in,
I noticed a difference.
You look at Brittany(The sexy next door neighbor)
the same way you use to look at me,
You smile at Brittany
the same way you use to smile at me.
I know she just moved in but
how do you act way more friendly
than with your own wifey?
I want you to explain that shit to me
I know that I gained weight
but I’m trying babe to lose it
but I travel a lot during the week
and it’s for me
to find something healthy to eat.
You know I had to cancel my gym membership
to pay for my parents funeral.
Do you know what it’s like knowing
you parents died in a car accident,
the agony is beyond real.
The thoughts in my head are so unreal.
I have a lot going on and your all that I
have left and I miss how things
between us use to be.
Sexual tension and energy between us
no longer exist and each of the memories
vanish in thin air like marijuana smoke.
I miss how the tip
use to bang against my tonsils.
I miss the choke
but now I feel like my life is suffocating
and the pressure is getting stronger.
Why do you insist on treating your wife like
Tell me why you don’t find me attractive
and I’ll try my best to fix it?”
I tried to hold back my laughter but I couldn’t.
I had to cover up my honesty and told her
that “Honey it’s not you,
I’m just not feeling you…….
wait shit lol, I meant well, well.”
Lol she saw right through the bullshit.
She sucked her teeth then just hopped in the bed
and fell fast asleep.
The fucked up part was that I didn’t feel bad.
to be honest, I didn’t give fuck.
1) Do you think wifey should seek counseling to save her marriage, or should she get a divorce?
2) If you had one word to describe wifey, what would say about her?
3) After reading this, do you think sex is a priority in a relationship?
4) In part 2, do you think the main character will have an affair with Brittany?
5) Is weight gain a good reason to stop having sex with your spouse?
6) Is being exhausted a good excuse for not wanting to have sex or is that a weak ass excuse and people need to learn to overcome their sleepiness since sex is a priority?
7) Give me an example of a double entendre I provided in this story?
8) How important is physical attraction in a marriage?
9) After you answer number 8, let’s say after being married for some time and you start losing the interest and physical attraction towards you spouse, will you make excuses to avoid having sex?
10) Now vice versa, let’s say your spouse lost interest in you physically, how would that make you feel, do you think that your spouse no longer being attracted to you is a good reason to not want to have sex with you, how long is going too long with out sex in marriage, and if you and your spouse both acknowledge that the marriage is a sexless one do you think professional help is necessary?
11) To maintain a good healthy sexual relationship, is oral sex necessary ?
If you have the time, I encourage all bloggers to leave a comment answering the most difficult question out of the 11 questions . If you are a blogger that’s running out of content to blog about, I encourage you to make a post answering all of the 11 questions I provided and and link it back to this post and I will reblog that post on my blog giving you a shout out and in addition I will reblog a post on your blog explaining my interest for your post and blog. I might make a whole series out of this and write all the way up to part 28. Instead of writing random poetry, I think I might just focus on this story and complete this by August. It is going to be a lot of thinking and late nights but if you really enjoyed reading this, than I might consider doing that.
Part 2 will be coming shorty
I am going to try and take blogging to the next level. I wrote so many poems and I think I deserve my recognition so I am definitely looking to connect with more people on social media so I am going to provide a few links to check out. Hell maybe one day after Avengers End Game comes out in May, I use a profile pic of my real identity lol but who knows.
For bloggers that are looking to make connections meet people, you can start with me lol
Here is my About Me page and leave a comment and I will follow you back.
For bloggers that been following me, supporting me and leaving comments, from time to time I am going to through your posts and pick a favorite one of mine and reblog it explaining why I like it so much. Give me time though because I have such other things going on in life. Please forgive me for the spelling mistakes because I wrote this quick because I had to get my car fixed lol.
This episode is a 1 hr long so if don’t have time just watch from 38:30 – 40:15.
For those of you that don’t know, this is from the show “Soul Food”.
After watching this video and I only recommend watching from 38:30 – 40:15, comment below your opinion and I left a question at the end of this blog.
After watching this episode, I just have a question and this is for the women that are happily married,
If your husband was having dreams of having sex with another woman, how would that make you feel?
This will be one of my poems that will be in my book “How To Be A Good Husband”. My book will be published very soon and I hope you purchase a copy as soon as it comes out. I promise you, this will be the best book you will ever read. Please read some of my previous posts below to get a preview of what you can expect.
I need rest
Sleep is best
Too damn tired
for some neck
The pillow where
my head rest,
I look forward to that.
Love and affection
with a female companion
is so wack.
Porn and frequent masturbation
is where I focus my concentration.
Dirty talk I hate that in a conversation
since only palms deserve my attention.
XXX videos my provide excellent demonstration
and it’s the key that open the door to heal
when you get rejected or heartbroken.
Same sex with the same person forever is tedious.
So porno made me oblivious to bad b*tches
that act so fucking arrogant.
If I can go back in time, I would of stayed
Like I said earlier, my hands are much more deserving.
After I’m done ejaculating, I’m peacefully resting
Never have to worry about a female asking
” You wanna go for round 2?”
I respond ” Do I look like a machine to you?”
Its either that or they want to cuddle.
I don’t have the energy, after sex
I get too sleepy
So I dislike it when a female keep nagging me.
I am not a fucking machine, my ejaculation
drains the shit out of me.
So please stop asking me for round 2 please.
This is why I deserve my hand.
Lonely and private is how I like it.
Don’t have to worry about emotions and feelings.
Sexual intercourse can be confusing sometimes.
Add on a bunch of mixed feelings.
Masturbating is straight to the point.
Right after, I smoke a joint
then fall asleep and sleep my life away.
I have a book coming in the spring called “How To Be A Good Husband”. I have worked hard writing this book and now I finally found a publishing agency that will accept my work and I am so happy right now. When you work hard and remain patient and don’t give up, good things will come.
My book entails 101 tips on what to do and what not to do in order to be a good husband but in this blog I will list 10 main points I focus on in book.
- Tell your wife that sex is overrated and that sex should last no longer than 1 minute.
- Let your wife know that good sex can break a marriage apart and that sex should feel like a chore.
- Let your wife that going separate vacations is better than going on vacations together because separate vacations will strengthen the marriage
- If your wife want a joint bank account, tell her “Hell Noooooooooooo!”
- If your wife doesn’t want to work and rather stay home and be a house wife, divorce her ASAP. Never settle for a housewife.
- If your wife has a problem with you watching porn, politely ask for a divorce.
- During football and basketball season, tell your wife to buy sex toys because from August – June, you will be busy watching sports. July is the month for sexual intercourse(also tell your wife that sexual intercourse will always involve a condom, no unprotected sex ever).
- Tell your wife that in public it’s best to avoid communication and only focus on the cell phones because the more you communicate, the more chances of arguments.
- Tell your wife that french kissing is not allowed and only once a month you will give her a quick peck on the lips.
- Tell your wife that it is best not to wear shorts or anything revealing in the house because it will encourage you to lust and lusting after your wife is inappropriate. For example, tell your wife that when she take a shower, she must take her clothes with her in the bathroom and change in the bathroom after she get out the shower. Also, when your wife goes to bed, tell her that she must wear pajamas at all times and she can not sleep in the bed wearing bra and panties, boy shorts and leggings. In fact I would suggest sleeping in separate beds but that’s up to you.
Please hit the like button and comment below if you want me to provide more tips on how to save your marriage. Next month, I will be a special guest on the Oprah show on March 2 at 11Am. Make sure you tune in.