Is it healthy to have a close friend as a Ex?

This post is a very short post.

 

Now before I get into today’s topic, I saw  good question on twitter. The question was “Ladies, if a dude had flowers sitting in the car for you on the first date. Would y’all say he’s doing too much?” Me personally as a man, I think flowers is not a terrible thing but I would wait until the third or fourth date. But for the women reading this question, comment below and tell what you think about this!

 

Now please read my last post What will My future Blogs Will Be About?. 

Now is it healthy to have a Ex as a close friend? 

 

Unless you have a child with your ex, I don’t see an good reason why a person would communicate with their Ex. I believe if somebody is still in contact with their ex, then they probably stilling fucking.

The top three reasons why I believe people still keep in contact : 

  1. They still love you
  2. You still love them
  3. You’re lonely

 

Just a few questions for you to think about!

  1. If you just got in a new relationship and your new partner is close friends with their ex, how would you feel?
  2. If your current partner was invited to dinner by their ex, and your current partner was willing to go to dinner with their ex, how would you respond?
  3. Have you ever kept in contact with your ex, while dating somebody new and did the current partner know that you was still in contact with your ex?
  4.  Is it possible to have a successful relationship with your new partner, if you just broke up with your ex?
  5. Besides the three reasons I listed above, why do you think people still keep in contact with their ex?
  6. What if you was friends with your ex first before ya got together, now after ya realized a relationship between ya isn’t the best option and ya just rather remain friends, would you expect your new partner to accept the fact that you are friends with your ex?

 

Pick at least 2 out of the six questions and comment below and if you have any questions, feel free to comment!

 

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What will My future Blogs Will Be About?

Questions On Dating/Relationships/Marriages

 

I was on Youtube and I recently discovered this channel in which a group of young people express their opinions on questions about relationships, dating, marriage, sex and among other things. Some of these questions definitely caught my attention and I believe these type of questions are things that should be discussed with your peers.   The name of the channel I’m talking about is “Krew Season. So if you are curious about this Youtube channel , just go to Youtube now and type in Krew Season.

So for my next five topics, I will be blogging about these five topics listed below:

 

 

  1. Is it healthy to have your Ex as a close friend?
  2. Do women prefer nice guys or assholes?
  3. Are men obligated to pay on the first date?
  4. Top 5 lies Women tell?
  5. Top 5 lies Men tell?

 

If if you get a chance, you should check out their youtube channel because they have a lot of interesting discussions that I believe most of us would be  interested in .

Are We Meant To Be Happy?

Why does a heart so warm
can have such a guilty conscience?
Why does the negative
have to outweigh the positive?
Why does the potential
have to become wasted talent?
Why do good people
choose to be dishonest?
Why is it so hard to use logic?
Why can’t we control our emotions?
Why do we achieve accomplishment
after accomplishment
but still feel worthless?
Why do hearts get broken
when we are the ones
that made sacrifices?
Why do we learn the real lesson
after rejection?
Why do a honest mistake need
lots of criticizing?
Why is the demons existing
when we are on our knees
praying?
Why is it when we die,
we take our secrets
instead of exposing it?
Why do employees
provide rude customer service?
Why does a spouse have to go
through a sexless marriage?
Why does masturbation
have to be so addictive?
Why is motivation and subscription
a 1 week vacation and misery is a
lifetime subscription?
Why can’t relatives
we barely hear from
mind their business?
Why is it when we post a blog,
we can’t get comments?
Why nice men don’t get appreciated
by women?
Why do men fail to protect women by becoming abusive?
Why do we still have sex unprotected
when there are so many diseases?
Why is it when we become teenagers, we
argue with our parents?
Why is it so hard to get the book
that we spent sleepless nights writing
about so hard to get published?
Why do people that quit everything get criticized when quitting is simplistic?
Why is it so hard to take your own advice
but we expect others to listen?
Why is it so hard to follow our passion?
Why is it so hard to be dedicated?
Why are we still having children, when earth is becoming more overpopulated?
Why are so many entry level jobs require years of experience?
Biggest question of all,
Why did Adam and Eve choose to disobey God and listen to the serpeant?
Why are we meant to be happy after reading all of these questions?

If heaven was guaranteed this minute, would you still think life is worth living?

Should Women Pursue Men?

 Should Women Start Approaching Men?

 

 

The dating environment have changed drastically over the years. Just like technology, the speed of relationships advances at a fast pace as time is moving by every second of the day. On social media, I heard seen many men post on their social media accounts stating that they believe that women should pursue men that they are interested in or have an attraction for.

 

 

To be honest, I think women should approach a man that she in interested in, rather than waiting for him to wait for him to make the first move. I can’t speak for all men, but somebody like myself likes a woman with confidence. I think it’s very appealing when a women pursue for something that she wants. This demonstrates confidence and independence.  I will stop it here since I don’t want to be long winded so I have listed some questions at the end of the post for you to answer in my comment section because I am interested in hearing your opinion.

 

Questions

 

  1. What’s your opinion on women making the first move and approaching men?
  2. As far as women making the first move, does this make women look desperate?
  3. Why do you think most men prefer women to make the first move?
  4. If women was to approach men instead of wanting for men to make the first move, do you think women would actually date the men that they want, instead of responding to the men that want them?

 

 

 

Answers To My Own Questions

Tired of letting things slide

How many things I let slide?

How intense are the emotions bottled up inside?

Why do I let negative thoughts reside?

Why do I allow these words slide by like water rides?

 

For years I let people get away with shit and I ‘m sick of it.

Nice guys finish last, and for this reason I can’t let go of the past.

A thought is a seed that grows into a large oak tree.

It’s identified as the black charge of the jumper cable, which explains why I’m not able

                              To be comfortable.

 

 

What fear does to the body

What is it that I fear?

What is it that I hear?

Why does my heart beat fast?

Why can’t I let go of the past?

 

A fear so deep, has my heart pounding.

It’s hard for me to think, but I’m still trying.

My focus is weak, and time goes by fast.

My mind, more regrets sink, my body won’t last

                             As time past.

 

My deepest fear

Is it the fear of commitment?

Is it the fear of flying?

Is it the fear of public speaking?

Is it the fear of rejection?

 

Lack of an erection, is why I ducked commitment.

Broken wings, is why I sink instead of levitating.

Slow speech of tongue, is why I don’t speak much in public.

A broken heart, is why  I learned to hate my actions

                                 With a passion

Do people really mean it when they say “Take As Long As You Want”?

“Take as long as you want”,

Hmm is this statement overrated?

Even the strongest lungs aren’t perfect.

I know that has nothing to do with this,

but think about it for a minute.

Let your conscience visit for a second

and listen.

When you say “Take as long as you want”

do you really mean it?

Does patience exist forever or does it

began to vanish?

It’s hard to abandon the ones you love

or the ones that mean well and giving it

eveything they got, but

what if it never get better?

Are u going to help that person forever?

Are you going to stay around that person forever?

Do you know anything on this planet that last forever?

Well have you ever written a love letter?

After you written that love letter did you get rejected after?

Your heart just experinced a disaster.

You gave everything you got but it still didn’t get better.

Here are some provided examples:

Imagine as a woman being with a man that can’t obtain an erection.

Its the beginning of a relationship, he gets embrassed, but you work with him to fix.

But it’s almost 2 years and still don’t notice a difference.

Its still the same shit.

He visited a urologist, received cialis, but erections are still non-existent.

So in this case 2 years later, would you still have patience even though you love him?

Would you reminisce the amazing sexual intercourse from you exes?

Would start to wish that your current boyfriend had the confidence like your ex boyfriend?

Your ex-boyfriend calls you, would you reject his call or would you answer it?

Vice versa as man being with a woman that want to pratice abstinence.

She necessarily don’t want to wait before marriage, but she want you to be patient

with sex

since she had really bad experiences in her previous relationships.

Its been 3 years, you know her deepest secrets, she tell you everything about her personal busniess, you seen her in her weakest moments, you wiped the tears,

you always tell her how much you care,

ya hold hands in public, you treat her like a queen in private, you showed her that in this world, they are true gentleman, and no matter how much lust dwells within the hemispheres of your brain, you continue to remain patient agaian and again.

Hell, you barely even had the chance to caress her, and you know sex is something you been wanting to have with her, so you finally approach the idea of sex with her, telling here that you are ready take it to the next level, but she says she still don’t feel comfortable with you to take it to the bedroom, and she need more time.

You say its okay I understand , no problem that’s fine.

But is it really fine or are you lying?

Are you willing to wait 3 more years?

Are you willing to wait 2 more years?

Is this really fair?

Would you abandon the one you love even though you care?

Put yourself in their shoes and ask yourself is this true.

If you gave it everything you got but still wasn’t getting it, would you want that person trying help you abandon you?

Do you know what it feels like to have somebody give up on you?

Questions:

After reading this poem, I provided some questions for you to think about:

1) How do you truly know that you are ready to have sex with your signficant other? Is being comfortable a good enough reason to have sex or is there more to it?

2) If you boyfriend you have been with for a while, is having a hard time obtaining an erection and he tried everything from visiting the urologist and taking medications but nothing is working, could this affect your relationship?

3) Does being too patient get you hurt in the long run?

4) What is one thing no matter how hard you try that you just couldn’t accomplish?

5) Does hardwork really pay off?

Pick two out of fivethe questions that caught your interest the most and comment below?

For Relationships/Marriages

Below I have three questions for everybody that’s in a relationship or married. The first 2 questions were asked by my girlfriend and I liked these thought provoking questions.

If you were single and had one shot left at love would you choose your Ex at least knowing who you’re dealing with or gamble and pick a “Next”, a person who could be better or worse than the last situation?

What are topics between us that you think would be difficult to bring up or talk about with each other? Us specifically or between couples?

If you just started dating somebody, is necessary to speak to your significant other on the phone everday? Also could you be in a relationship with somebody that rather text than speak on the phone?

Pick one question out of the three that caught your interest and comment below your answer!

Questions About The Bible

  1. If Adam and Eve were the first two humans on earth, why is there five categorizes of races such as American Indian, Asian, Black or African American, Native Hawaiian and white?
  2.  As far fornication, in the bible days I understand why sex before marriage is a sin. In those days, condoms nor birth control existed. Now in this present day, since sex before marriage is a sin and God’s purpose is for us to be fruitful and multiply, is condoms and birth control a sin?
  3. It says in the bible that wives must submit to their husbands authority. I have a hard time understanding this, so what’s an example of a wife submitting to her husband and what if the husband dies, will the wife be head of the household? Also why can’t the husband and wife lead the household together?
  4. Since in the bible, it’s stated that men are the leaders, how do you feel about having a female president?
  5. From I was told, I was told when man marry a woman his wife comes first, does this mean that man is suppose to love his wife more than his mother?
  6.  Not sure if this is in the bible or not but I was told that your spouse comes before your children. Now why does your spouse comes first? Don’t your kids need your attention more than your spouse does?
  7. If the bible didn’t exist, do you think the divorce rate  today would be much lower?
  8. Does the bible condemn slavery? “Slaves, obey your earthly masters with deep respect and fear. Serve them sincerely as you would serve Christ”  and also “Masters, treat your slaves justly and fairly, knowing that you also have a Master in heaven” now I think most would agree that slavery is wrong. So in these two scriptures was slavery legal? How can you treat a slave fairly when a slave is forced to do work for a higher authority? Does these two scriptures contradict itself?
  9.  In church, you hear members say that the devil is a liar. Now if you read genesis it says “You will not certainly die,” the serpent said to the woman. “For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked;now if you carefully read this verse, after Adam and Eve ate the apple, they knew they were naked. The serpent told Eve that her eyes would be open and she would know good and evil. Now in this present day we know the difference good and evil and we know what it means to be naked, so technically in this verse, did the devil really lie to Eve? He did lie to Eve telling her that he won’t die, but did lie to Eve when he said to Eve that she would know the difference between good and evil?
  10. Now lust is a sin but it is encouraged in the bible to lust after your wife. So before you are married, you can’t lust after your girlfriend. If lust is a sin before marriage, how will you automatically be able to lust after your wife if you trained your mind to not lust. Your mind is set on something, its hard to change your mind, sometimes it’s impossible to change when you are use to do something for so long?

 

Overall I do believe there is a God, but I believe the bible is not perfect. I also believe the new testament oppresses women. The bible is man made and man the bible is written a variety of men.  Also the bible is told in a man’s point of view, why couldn’t the women at the time write any verses of the bible. Are men and women created equal?

A List Of 31 Things I Learned Over The Years Can You Relate

I am going to make a list of things that I learned over the years.

I picked the number 31 because at max there are 31 days in a month and we are all born between number 1 and 31. Now while writing this, I thought of an idea.

You can make a game out of this called “31 quotes”. Now imagine this like your in a speech and debate club with 30 other people. 15 men, 15 women and plus yourself and all born on a different date. Now each of the quotes I listed below from 1 – 31 will be cards with a number on them. From numerical birthdate order, you will be seated among the other 15 men and 15 women and each of them(including yourself) will be given a card associated with your birthdate. When it’s your turn, let’s say you was born on the 1st, according numerical order you will be up first and what you have to do is flip over the card and read the 1st quote I left below outloud and explain to everybody why this apply to your life with an real life of example of yours.

After you go the, the second person will go, then the third and etc. Afterthe person that was born on the 31st goes and after listening to everybody speak ,next you will write down the person that you related to or the person that caught your interest the most on paper. The person that is picked as the most releated is the winner.

I just made this game up lol and I know it might be confusing but it’s something that can make debates more entertaining. Who knows, maybe this can be a college class. Anyway read below the list of 31 things below and pick the one that would make an interesting blog topic.

1) One thing we as humans have a problem doing is being consistent

2) This is a generation where popularity overrides real talent and real talent don’t get recognized with out popularity

3) Stand up to yourself but yet be respectful. Only get loud if you have to.

4) You can have a bunch motivating people in your life.
One toxic person can really stress you the fuck out.
If you have a toxic person in your life, get rid of them

5) People that think deep are usually lowkey and avoid popularity

6) People in this world are selfish

7) I know you not supposed to argue with your parents but parents will try to bully their kids and take advantage

8) Best type of job is owning your own business

9) Real shit
Most of us been in toxic relationships and most can agree when you love somebody that’s toxic it’s hard to escape
But once you exit a toxic relationship you make a promise to yourself that you’ll never go back the path ever again
Facts of life
And that’s with everything

10) Life is a war
and each day is a battle

11) You should be a gentleman towards your woman but don’t let her talk to you any type of way

12) You can only pray for people to change but if they not praying for themselves and they don’t think they can change then you can only ask the lord to forgive them for being lost.
13) If you gotta argue with your signficant other on how to be treated then you might as well walk away and being single

14) Being afraid to fail or being rejected will make you unconfident all the time.

15) Learn to judge yourself and criticize yourself to help you to become immune to everybody else’s judging you.

16) Not leaving your comfort zone will make your life boring.

17) Some people will waste your time when you help them the first time, but if you helped them a second time, you are just wasting your own time.

18) Salaries is not keeping up with the cost of living and money is the root of all evil so protect your money like how you would protect your children

19) If you know deep down inside that good sex will make you catch feelings for somebody then casual sex might not be for you.

20) Youappreciate something or someone with good intentions even more when they are gone.

21) If everybody was doing what they love instead of doing what’s available, the world might be a more friendly place

22) Don’t worry about your flaws because we all have them. Ask yourself, if more people in the world was like me, would the world be a better place? If the answer is yes then be proud of who you are.

23) If you ask somebody for a favor and they ignore you, don’t ask twice.

24) Alot of people have the potential to be great and have the mindset to work hard , but when you don’t have nobody to support and nobody to get advice from, very easy to give up.

25) Most hidden emotions will come to the light eventually but most people got at least one secret that take with them to the grave so does all truth come to light?

26) Making friends is hard when you are being yourself.

27) Quiet people are quiet in public because they either fear judgment, very depressed in private, or very sneaky people disguised as being innocent

28) Quiet people are sometimes the most ruthless people

29) Quiet people are usually begging for attention deep down inside themselves

30) Words are powerful. Words can have the power to build and words have the power to destroy. Words are powerful because the lord created the the world by using word example “let there be light”. But remember words don’t have the power to raise someone from the dead so be careful think before you speak.

31) People will reject you but lowkey get jealous when they see you happy with somebody else.

I Have Questions

I Have Questions and I Have More Questions! – Please click and read the questions I left on these blogs.

For those of you that don’t know me, I’m David Hockaday and I have been blogging for a little over year. I have been writing poetry for almost four years and poetry is my passion. I started a blog to express my thoughts on life and the experiences I have been through. I write about all kinds of topics, but my topics I love to write about are deep, dark topics and I will add some links below of my top ten deepest,darkest poems.

Top Ten deep dark poems

10. Heartless and Heartbroken

9. Tired of being the nice guy

8. Do I Perfer Strippers?Women Got Me Fed Up

7. Meaning OF Fear

6. Praying For A Better Future

5. Don’t Give Or Receive

4. The Way The Heart Works

3. This Is A Cold World

2. Where Have You Been?

1. How I Really Feel And I Won’t Lie

I don’t expect you to read all ten, but just pick the one that caught your attention based on the title. Last November I wrote a Who Am I? post and please click and read if you are curious to know more about me. I want to build, connect, and learn from other bloggers. I am a very curious person and my mind is loud and always racing. They say quiet people have the loudest minds. In person I am very silent and shy so I do all my talking through my poetry and I share it on here for everybody to read so it can give the courage for other people to open up. I just want to say, no matter how dark or deep your mind is, never be afraid to express yourself and release any pain, any frustration that bothers you. Keeping things inside with fuck with your mind so poetry is my exercise. We all get lonely and though some of us like being alone, sometimes we need to talk to someone. Now nobody has our back like family and it’s always family first but sometimes its always good to talk to new people as well to pick their brain so that’s why I am writing this post. So below I will list down a few questions that I have been thinking about for the past few days.

1. Women out number men on this planet Why do you think it was God’s intention to have women out number men? Do you think there will be a difference if men out number women?

2. If your daughter was grown and she wanted to go to the dealership for a new car but she never been to the dealership before and she wanted her father to go but the father made excuses does that make him a bad father?

3. Like I knew this woman who was mad with her husband because he would constantly read his sons a bedtime story and sleep in their beds What’s her problem like why was she mad?

4. Is it harder to forgive yourself or somebody else?

5. If your bf can’t dance is that a turn off? If your bf refuse to dance at parties, clubs,weddings etc are u breaking up with him?

6. Can you hate yourself but love somebody else?

7. Can you marry somebody that don’t believe God?

8. Once you child is over 18 but yet so they still live with you, should they still be forced to go to church or should the decision be on their own?

9) What is the appropriate age to talk to your kids about sex

10) Why is lack of communication a common problem in a relationship?

11) Do you need to have a healthy sex life in a marriage?

Out of all these questions, pick one question that either caught your attention or a question that have thought about before and comment below your answer and I will respond regarding my answer to that question. Also please as well if there is a post that you want feedback on, please post a link in my comment section your favorite and most powerful post and I will give my opinion regarding the post