Lessons Learned in my 20’s

I will be turning 30 on June 22nd and I must says my 20’s was my most stressful times. I pray that my 30’s will be a lot better than my 20’s. In this post, I will be making a list of all the tings that I have learned over the past 10 years.

 

Lessons Learned

The top three things, people will judge you by is how much money you make, where you live, and who you having sex with.

  1. What I learned about money is making a lot of money is the goal but saving your money is more impressive because a lot of celebrities that were in their prime in the 80’s and 90’s are broke now.
  2.  Being from the hood don’t make you tough, and being from the suburbs don’t mean your safety is guaranteed at all times. Some neighborhoods are worst than others but crime is everywhere.
  3.  Sex is your personal business, so never volunteer to tell people how many people you have sex with, who you having sex with, and how many one night stands you had. Don’t let other people make you feel guilty about your sex life because most of the time, people that judge you and criticize you are usually jealous of you.

 

Parents and a lot of your elders will tell you that you are too young to be stressed or you don’t know how good you got it.

  1. Nobody loves you like the way your parents do. Your parents are older and wiser than you so you should always respect their advice but you have to do what makes you happy.
  2.  In this generation, it’s harder to find love, the cost of living is more expensive, and the requirements/standards to find entry level jobs are much higher which makes it harder to find good career jobs.
  3. Parents can be the biggest bullies and hypocrites. Parents will try to live through their dreams through their children but all this does is make your children resent you more. Parents should be good parents and treat their kids with respect because your kids might be all you have when you get old.

 

I have always been taught that black people are the most divided race and black people never stick together

  1.  Black people are only noticed for their violence and ignorance, but there are hardworking black people, that find true love, get married, have children and live happily ever after.
  2. Big difference between black people and niggas but every race have the people that demonstrate class and people that demonstrate ignorance. Ignorance is not based on a person’s skin, but on a person’s character.
  3.  Interracial relationships and marriages is a beautiful thing  because I love to see people being happy by following their hearts. So always follow your heart, listen to your mind, and use common sense and you will find the right person.  Never judge a person that dates outside their race and never make a person feel bad for only wanting to date within their race. Love is an emotion without color.

 

Things that I learned in my 20’s that I didn’t understand as a child

  1. I learned that reading can stimulate your mind but you won’t truly master your craft until you can apply what you read to experience.
  2. Fast food is addictive but it does harm to your mind and body because it can decrease your sex drive, make you body tired, and possibly lower your confidence.
  3.  Popularity is a phase and is only overrated if you only became popular by trying to be somebody your not. Once people get use to your presence, as time ages, people forget your presence existed in the first place. Being popular by being yourself, working hard, and helping people for the right reason will make your popularity last a lifetime. It is possible as well to be popular just by being yourself.
  4.  Boring and lonely is the new trend in this generation. Even the most popular people feel lonely and goes through depression.
  5.  Being a celebrity feels like the life from a distance, but up close and in person, being a celebrity is one of the biggest pressures you can go through because not living up to the expectations of your fans can end your career.
  6.  When you watch porn all the time, sex in real life feels so overrated.
  7.  Believe it or not, women are freakier than men, and in this generation women are more straight forward and honest and not afraid to express their opinions regarding sex, but still women hate perverts lol.  I use to be surprised whenever I met a girl that was so straight forward expressing her feelings on her sexual needs because as a child, I was always thought that women didn’t like sex.
  8. You don’t need to go to college become successful. Some of the most successful people were high school or college dropouts.
  9.  Being a teen parent is not a goal to achieve as a child growing up, but never judge a teen parent because some of them still work their asses of to make something out of themselves. You have people in this world that have no kids and still make all the excuses in the world do not do anything with their lives.
  10.  No matter how old you get, you will always make mistakes. You will always have a weakness, and ten years goes by fast.

 

 

 

 

 

Life Lessons

Consequences is the affect since sins are committed by the innocent.
I thought of this from lion king when scar wanted to devour the little rodent.
Sometimes those people think there’s no choice based on the lives they’re living in. Everyone alive is physically living,
but decisons will be foreced upon,
when living careless, or when lacking the characteristic of being dominant.
Being dominant is just an excuse for people to live reckless.
That trait has nothing to do with making a hit on others going from check list to check list.
But as well, you must understand this world is survival of the fittest.
Recklessness leads to accidents
but tell me this, what can you accomplish by being passive?
Being passive certainly is not the answer, no one would hear your voice.
But making sure you accomplish your dreams and that you stand out is all up to your choice.
Some dreams stay dreams, some dreams come true.
I always say pick the apple highest on the tree
since its healthiest for you
Couldn’t agree more with reaching high for what you want.
It’s better to work hard than just taking it as many have been taught.
Hard work is honored but only if working smart comes with hard work like a warranty plan.
Hard work is like a brand new laptop, but meaningless once it break and there is no warranty plan.
Now time is like wasted money thats spent over again
for not using intelligence when carrying out the main plan
Warranty implies when something is broken you have somewhere to turn.
With life there isn’t a back up plan and it’s unfortunate that people don’t understand that when they’ve been warned.
Life isn’t make believe nor is it a joke so hard work is the recipe to staying woke.
Well life itself is something that we only have once chance,
but each day, we go through situations
like a twlight zone
where some may be similar compared to others.
A unfamiliar situation can lead to a mistake that becomes a lesson, but that a situation can arise again like the sunrise,
so would it be foolish to make same mistake like last time?
Never a failure always a lesson.
This is true that a mistake can lead to an open door.
Stumbling into situations that one has never endured before.
Fool a person once, shame on them, fool a person twice and they may need to look into what’s going on with them.
It’s possible to make the same mistake twice but, it’s advised to use caution with ice.
Yes make sure to take the ice with you when approaching a open door and walk in slow.
But the door could suddenly slam in your face and make you feel low,
but don’t let that closed door stop you from achieving your ultimate goal.
Find a key, or lock pick that shit and get it open.
Do whatever you have to do to cross the finish line safely and preparedly.
You might open it but, what lies inside it you may be ready for it barely.
However what’s on the other side should never prevent you from going forward.
Take deep breaths and move onward.
To move forward, sometimes we go backwards to start over and I’m living proof.
So many choices to make in split seconds, so what do I choose?
Life lessons aren’t taught in school
because the way I learn is through fail examinations
and I learn the lesson after.
Every failed exam, have made me to adapt better and at a faster pace.
I will acheive all of my goals before gray hairs crowd around my face.

Now after reading this poem, If you had to think about your life, off the top of your head what was the two most important lessons that the elders should teach the youth?

For me, I say that young teenage males should be taught on how to put on a condom to prevent an unwanted pregnancy and young teens should also be taught that college is an excellent experience, but college alone will not guarantee a job after you graduate so therefore make connections, apply for internships while in school, and take certification exams that are required in your field of study.

Comment below and tell me what you think?

Also I want to say thank you to Tiffanee Charles for helping me write this poem.

A List Of 31 Things I Learned Over The Years Can You Relate

I am going to make a list of things that I learned over the years.

I picked the number 31 because at max there are 31 days in a month and we are all born between number 1 and 31. Now while writing this, I thought of an idea.

You can make a game out of this called “31 quotes”. Now imagine this like your in a speech and debate club with 30 other people. 15 men, 15 women and plus yourself and all born on a different date. Now each of the quotes I listed below from 1 – 31 will be cards with a number on them. From numerical birthdate order, you will be seated among the other 15 men and 15 women and each of them(including yourself) will be given a card associated with your birthdate. When it’s your turn, let’s say you was born on the 1st, according numerical order you will be up first and what you have to do is flip over the card and read the 1st quote I left below outloud and explain to everybody why this apply to your life with an real life of example of yours.

After you go the, the second person will go, then the third and etc. Afterthe person that was born on the 31st goes and after listening to everybody speak ,next you will write down the person that you related to or the person that caught your interest the most on paper. The person that is picked as the most releated is the winner.

I just made this game up lol and I know it might be confusing but it’s something that can make debates more entertaining. Who knows, maybe this can be a college class. Anyway read below the list of 31 things below and pick the one that would make an interesting blog topic.

1) One thing we as humans have a problem doing is being consistent

2) This is a generation where popularity overrides real talent and real talent don’t get recognized with out popularity

3) Stand up to yourself but yet be respectful. Only get loud if you have to.

4) You can have a bunch motivating people in your life.
One toxic person can really stress you the fuck out.
If you have a toxic person in your life, get rid of them

5) People that think deep are usually lowkey and avoid popularity

6) People in this world are selfish

7) I know you not supposed to argue with your parents but parents will try to bully their kids and take advantage

8) Best type of job is owning your own business

9) Real shit
Most of us been in toxic relationships and most can agree when you love somebody that’s toxic it’s hard to escape
But once you exit a toxic relationship you make a promise to yourself that you’ll never go back the path ever again
Facts of life
And that’s with everything

10) Life is a war
and each day is a battle

11) You should be a gentleman towards your woman but don’t let her talk to you any type of way

12) You can only pray for people to change but if they not praying for themselves and they don’t think they can change then you can only ask the lord to forgive them for being lost.
13) If you gotta argue with your signficant other on how to be treated then you might as well walk away and being single

14) Being afraid to fail or being rejected will make you unconfident all the time.

15) Learn to judge yourself and criticize yourself to help you to become immune to everybody else’s judging you.

16) Not leaving your comfort zone will make your life boring.

17) Some people will waste your time when you help them the first time, but if you helped them a second time, you are just wasting your own time.

18) Salaries is not keeping up with the cost of living and money is the root of all evil so protect your money like how you would protect your children

19) If you know deep down inside that good sex will make you catch feelings for somebody then casual sex might not be for you.

20) Youappreciate something or someone with good intentions even more when they are gone.

21) If everybody was doing what they love instead of doing what’s available, the world might be a more friendly place

22) Don’t worry about your flaws because we all have them. Ask yourself, if more people in the world was like me, would the world be a better place? If the answer is yes then be proud of who you are.

23) If you ask somebody for a favor and they ignore you, don’t ask twice.

24) Alot of people have the potential to be great and have the mindset to work hard , but when you don’t have nobody to support and nobody to get advice from, very easy to give up.

25) Most hidden emotions will come to the light eventually but most people got at least one secret that take with them to the grave so does all truth come to light?

26) Making friends is hard when you are being yourself.

27) Quiet people are quiet in public because they either fear judgment, very depressed in private, or very sneaky people disguised as being innocent

28) Quiet people are sometimes the most ruthless people

29) Quiet people are usually begging for attention deep down inside themselves

30) Words are powerful. Words can have the power to build and words have the power to destroy. Words are powerful because the lord created the the world by using word example “let there be light”. But remember words don’t have the power to raise someone from the dead so be careful think before you speak.

31) People will reject you but lowkey get jealous when they see you happy with somebody else.