On my previous post, A blogger commented on my post and gave me this blog topic to write about. I thought this was a good topic to write about. I am grateful for her comment and if she happens to read this, I just want to say thank you for reading my previous post and giving me this idea. This brief post is about how a man can get a good wife, how to make himself more attractive to attract a good woman to marry, and things to consider before he marries a good woman. Before choosing a wife, men must understand that women are different. The way you talk and act around your friends, will not be the same way you talk and act around your wife. Sometimes men focus on visual things such as sex and physical beauty. Now physical beauty and sex is somewhat important but that should not the highest pritiory when engaging in a long term relationship that could lead to marriage. So I’m going to list a few things to take into consideration before making your girlfriend become your wife. 1) Does she really love you? Actions speak louder than words. A good wife is going to accept you for who you are and she is not going to try and change your personality. Now there is no problem at all for a wife trying to get her husband to try out new things and be outgoing but at the same time, she should accept him and love him for who he is. 2) Is she educated? Now as far as education, she doesn’t have to have a PHD. Hell to be honest, she doesn’t need to have a bachelor’s degree but at least marry a woman that is versatile and can speak to you about various topics. Also want to marry a woman that has goals and ambition. Marry somebody that you can learn from. So another words even though I recommend a college degree, you don’t need a college degree to be successful and intelligent. 3) Does she have good upbringing? Before you marry your girlfriend, make sure she has manners. Don’t marry somebody that is rude and has a temper. When she is around her family, pay close attention to how she interacts with her family. She should be polite and respectful towards her parents. Also as well, pay close attention to how her family interacts with you as well because when you marry the woman of your dreams, in a way you are marrying her family because you are going to be around with her family as well. 4) Present yourself and be a leader? Be your own man and make mature decisions. Be responsible. Don’t be afraid to speak up. Don’t be oblivious towards your surroundings. A good woman that wants to be a good wife to a good husband wants to marry a man that makes her feels safe. A good woman don’t want to marry a little ass boy. A good woman want to marry a man that’s dominant and know how to take charge. Now I’m going to break down being dominant and being in charge. Being in charge don’t mean that you boss your wife around and treat her like a little girl. You don’t criticize or belittle your wife. You don’t ignore her opinions when you and your girlfriend are having a disagreement. Also a good husband should never have to tell his wife ” I’m the one in charge and I’m the head” because a real leader takes charge naturally and he does it in a healthy way. A man shall let his wife have her freedom, not treat her like a prisoner. A good man takes charge by protecting his lady and making her feel safe and appreciate her for supporting him. A good man should love and find joy providing for his wife but also make sure to marry a woman that is not afraid and also can provide as well.
I could of add more but I’ll end it here. If you want, you can comment below if you got annything to add.
I have a book coming in the spring called “How To Be A Good Husband”. I have worked hard writing this book and now I finally found a publishing agency that will accept my work and I am so happy right now. When you work hard and remain patient and don’t give up, good things will come.
My book entails 101 tips on what to do and what not to do in order to be a good husband but in this blog I will list 10 main points I focus on in book.
Tell your wife that sex is overrated and that sex should last no longer than 1 minute.
Let your wife know that good sex can break a marriage apart and that sex should feel like a chore.
Let your wife that going separate vacations is better than going on vacations together because separate vacations will strengthen the marriage
If your wife want a joint bank account, tell her “Hell Noooooooooooo!”
If your wife doesn’t want to work and rather stay home and be a house wife, divorce her ASAP. Never settle for a housewife.
If your wife has a problem with you watching porn, politely ask for a divorce.
During football and basketball season, tell your wife to buy sex toys because from August – June, you will be busy watching sports. July is the month for sexual intercourse(also tell your wife that sexual intercourse will always involve a condom, no unprotected sex ever).
Tell your wife that in public it’s best to avoid communication and only focus on the cell phones because the more you communicate, the more chances of arguments.
Tell your wife that french kissing is not allowed and only once a month you will give her a quick peck on the lips.
Tell your wife that it is best not to wear shorts or anything revealing in the house because it will encourage you to lust and lusting after your wife is inappropriate. For example, tell your wife that when she take a shower, she must take her clothes with her in the bathroom and change in the bathroom after she get out the shower. Also, when your wife goes to bed, tell her that she must wear pajamas at all times and she can not sleep in the bed wearing bra and panties, boy shorts and leggings. In fact I would suggest sleeping in separate beds but that’s up to you.
Please hit the like button and comment below if you want me to provide more tips on how to save your marriage. Next month, I will be a special guest on the Oprah show on March 2 at 11Am. Make sure you tune in.
Please read How To Save Your Marriage? and How To Be A Better Husband for real marriage advice. Statics shows that 1 out of every 2 marriages end in divorce. I plan on writing a book about saving your marriage and being a better husband. In the bible, it says the man has to listen to his wife and love her. But sometimes we as men lose sight of that so below I will list a few things that can help your marriage prosper.
When having sex with your wife, only worry about your own orgasm if you as a man pay the mortgage.
As a husband, never be the first to apologize.
When your wife tells you I love you, don’t say it back in return because she already knows how you feel.
If you and your wife get into an argument, if you are paying the mortgage then tell her she has to sleep on the couch.
If your wife won’t have sex with you, then don’t get mad, just watch porn.
If your wife want you to kiss her, tell her no and kiss her on the cheek.
Tell your wife that holding hands is not necessary and that’s only in the dating stage.
Tell your wife that during basketball finals that she can go cheat because during NBA finals you will be only focusing on basketball.
As a man if you have problems obtaining an erection and your wife think you should see help, tell her no and that sex is no longer a priority.
Tell your wife that you love her but your mother comes first since your mother gave you birth.
Tell your wife that celebrating anniversaries are overrated and you rather stay home and save money.
Tell your wife that she don’t have to submit and that you rather have her lead the household.
Tell your wife to not dress to impress you as a husband and recommend her not to wear tight clothing.
Tell your wife that her father comes 1st not matter what so tell her that if her father needs her, she is more than welcome to attend his needs.
Tell your wife that there is nothing wrong with being addicted to porn and that sex is overrated and it looks better on porn.
Tell your wife that its perfectly normal to check out other women and its perfectly normal. As long you don’t check out other women nothing wrong with checking out other women. In fact encourage her to check out other men
If your wife cheat and had sex with another man, to be honest as long as she wore a condom and did it in a hotel and did not give him head, this is absolutely fine and reward her with a vanilla shake.
Tell your wife that she is not allowed to moan during sex and that sex will be a maximum of five minutes
Tell your wife that it is disrespectful to receive blowjobs from her
Tell your wife that being honest destroys the marriage faster
Tell your wife that dedication is more important than passion so as long as you are loyal and dedicated to her, tell her that you don’t have to be romantic to her.
I just gave you a sample of my book that I plan to publish in January. The name of my book is “101 Ways To Save Your Marriage” Marriage is like chores, it is not suppose to be fun, it’s suppose to be a lot of work and something that has to get done.
Comment below if you think marriage is worth it or not?
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