How Many People You Regret Having Sex With?

People have sex  for only four reasons and theses are related to physical reasons, emotional  reasonsgoal based reasons, and insecurity reasons.

 

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But today I am going to talk about the most unhealthy reason which is insecurity. Below I have listed the five common reasons why I believe people have sex  because of insecurity

 

  1.  I believe many people use sex as a substitute when communication is lacking in a relationship.
  2.  I believe many people use sex as a substitute for healing when people are heartbroken and I believe people will seek sex with other people to try forget about the person that broke their heart.
  3. I believe many people use sex as a substitute to get what they want out of a person.
  4. I believe many people have sex because other people are doing it and they are trying to fit in.
  5. I believe many people have sex because in their minds, they think sex has the same power as cupid’s arrow and make somebody fall in love.

 

 

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Below is a poem I wrote explaining how having sex for a insecurity is deadly

Sex don’t mean shit
when you aren’t happy
But when we not happy
that’s when we feel
sex is most needed.
Sex just builds the affliction
Stretch the depression
Trick your mind
Into thinking
It’s repairing what broken.
Sex is deadly from the wrong
person .Its addicting to the point
your hypnotized.
Responsibilities are neglected, making poor choices
For those of you reading this
How many people did you regret having sex with?

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Now I understand why sex before marriage is a sin

But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.”  – 1 Corinthians 7:9

 

Since the beginning of time if everybody since the Adam And Eve days did not fornicate and waited until marriage to have sex, what would the world be like today? How would people be like? Would online dating  exist? Would prostitution exist? Would divorce rate be much lower, hell would divorces even be a thing? Would the human population be higher or would be lower? Would life be a safer place? What would porn stars be doing for a living? Would be love easier to find? Would rapist and pedophiles exist?

 

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Would the movie “40 year old Virgin” exist?

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And if it did still existed, would it have been this popular?

 

But would there be any negatives if everybody waited until marriage to have sex?

Would life be boring? Would TV be as popular? Would music be as popular? Would women have less power in the world? Would divorce rate increase? Would sex be enjoyable or would it be like a chore? Would health teachers have a job and would health class become boring? Would condoms exist? If condoms didn’t exist because everybody waited until marriage to have sex is that really a good thing, give this question some deep thought? Would waiting until marriage to have sex  increase the infidelity  rate, think hard about this?

 

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Comment below answer one of the questions in this blog and  I will respond regarding my opinion!

 

 

Why Don’t People Know How To Mind Their Business?

I did not plan on posting a blog today but something happened today that got me irritated. Now before you continue reading, please know that I don’t judge any woman based on her sex skills, all I did was answer someone’s question by giving my opinion regarding sex.

Overall I am a shy person minding my business and never try to fit in but I do try to interact with people on Twitter and WordPress even though I am not the most popular on neither of these social media apps. When I interact with people, I usually interact with people I can relate to. If I see something on Twitter or on WordPress that I disagree with, I normally mind my business 9/10 times. The one time I do disagree, I am very respectful and polite when I come in people’s mentions on Twitter and the comment section on wordpress.

I was on Twitter today and I saw someone tweeted an interesting question. The question was

” Fellas what makes a woman’s box/sex trash??” (In this statement box means vagina)

This was interesting question and I replied to this tweet. My response was

If she is complaining and set too many rules example
1) Don’t slap my ass
2) Don’t pull my hair
3)Don’t look at me
4)Your going to rough(this is 50/50 because I understand this one a little lol)
Overall when it’s like when the box come with a code book or instructional manual and if it’s really loose like if u can fit three fingers or four inside.”

Now some girl that I don’t even know or seen before comes in the mentions and says
So you know nothing about the female body lmao….got it

Now first of all based on my response, how does my response imply that I know nothing about the female body lol and even if this girl feels I know nothing about the female body, why can’t she mind her business and not worry about how I respond?

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Now on this example I am about explain, I will admit I should of mind my business and I was partially but the response that I received was disrespectful.

Now a little over a year ago on Twitter, this guy tweeted
I love black women, black women are beautiful“.
Now I didn’t know this guy so I shouldn’t of went into his mentions but I did anyway and I tweeted in his mentions
” Black women are goregous but I think all women of all races are beautiful
Now looking back on it now, I should of mind my business and all. So I can why the average person would get annoyed but this guy responded back to me and got disrespectful.
He tweeted in my mentions
“I said what I said, hop off my dick”
That comment pissed me off because even though I should of minded my business, I was respectful

Overall I do like Twitter. Twitter can be ignorant and reckless which is fine to me because some of my tweets are reckless as well. What I don’t understand is

1) Why don’t people mind their own business when they don’t agree with somebody’s opinion?

This is the reason why I stay to myself. What I learned in life is, when you are not popular, don’t have money, have no power, overweight or maybe not the most attractive towards the average person, people will judge you like your worthless or pay you no mind. Like a unpopular person can have an opinion on something that’s not logical, and people are quick to belittle that person. Let another person that’s more popular and attractive have the same unlogical opinion on the same exact situation as the unpopular person, than those same people that belittled the unpopular person will praise the popular person. Quiet people or people that are not popular are always told to speak up more and to open up, but when quite/unpopular people actually do speak what’s on their mind, doesn’t it feel like they get shut down or criticized? Also don’t you feel like people on social media and in real life judge you based on how popular you are? Have you ever had any arguments with people on social media? Why do people like arguing on social media?

If you have anything to add, feel free to comment

I Have Questions

I Have Questions and I Have More Questions! – Please click and read the questions I left on these blogs.

For those of you that don’t know me, I’m David Hockaday and I have been blogging for a little over year. I have been writing poetry for almost four years and poetry is my passion. I started a blog to express my thoughts on life and the experiences I have been through. I write about all kinds of topics, but my topics I love to write about are deep, dark topics and I will add some links below of my top ten deepest,darkest poems.

Top Ten deep dark poems

10. Heartless and Heartbroken

9. Tired of being the nice guy

8. Do I Perfer Strippers?Women Got Me Fed Up

7. Meaning OF Fear

6. Praying For A Better Future

5. Don’t Give Or Receive

4. The Way The Heart Works

3. This Is A Cold World

2. Where Have You Been?

1. How I Really Feel And I Won’t Lie

I don’t expect you to read all ten, but just pick the one that caught your attention based on the title. Last November I wrote a Who Am I? post and please click and read if you are curious to know more about me. I want to build, connect, and learn from other bloggers. I am a very curious person and my mind is loud and always racing. They say quiet people have the loudest minds. In person I am very silent and shy so I do all my talking through my poetry and I share it on here for everybody to read so it can give the courage for other people to open up. I just want to say, no matter how dark or deep your mind is, never be afraid to express yourself and release any pain, any frustration that bothers you. Keeping things inside with fuck with your mind so poetry is my exercise. We all get lonely and though some of us like being alone, sometimes we need to talk to someone. Now nobody has our back like family and it’s always family first but sometimes its always good to talk to new people as well to pick their brain so that’s why I am writing this post. So below I will list down a few questions that I have been thinking about for the past few days.

1. Women out number men on this planet Why do you think it was God’s intention to have women out number men? Do you think there will be a difference if men out number women?

2. If your daughter was grown and she wanted to go to the dealership for a new car but she never been to the dealership before and she wanted her father to go but the father made excuses does that make him a bad father?

3. Like I knew this woman who was mad with her husband because he would constantly read his sons a bedtime story and sleep in their beds What’s her problem like why was she mad?

4. Is it harder to forgive yourself or somebody else?

5. If your bf can’t dance is that a turn off? If your bf refuse to dance at parties, clubs,weddings etc are u breaking up with him?

6. Can you hate yourself but love somebody else?

7. Can you marry somebody that don’t believe God?

8. Once you child is over 18 but yet so they still live with you, should they still be forced to go to church or should the decision be on their own?

9) What is the appropriate age to talk to your kids about sex

10) Why is lack of communication a common problem in a relationship?

11) Do you need to have a healthy sex life in a marriage?

Out of all these questions, pick one question that either caught your attention or a question that have thought about before and comment below your answer and I will respond regarding my answer to that question. Also please as well if there is a post that you want feedback on, please post a link in my comment section your favorite and most powerful post and I will give my opinion regarding the post

How I Really Feel And I Won’t Lie(Part 2)

Before you read this, I highly recommend you ready How I Really Feel And I Won’t Lie first. I share my very personal thoughts in poetry format cut and dry and I don’t give a fuck. Through out this poem, I will have some sentences in bold in this poem because those are the quotes that are most powerful lessons that I learned

I can write for days

while you observe

the pain on my face.

Plus I’m poor

like a report card

with bad grades.

“Myself, I choose to isolate

and use to do it

to keep my heart safe

but it just increased the rage

and I write poetry to release frustration.

to keep my head straight.”

I can snap at any given time

and space

and I’m sure some of you can relate.

I mean how much can a muthfucka take?

It’s sad when you ain’t

comfortable at your home base.

I zone out and stare off into space

wishing somebody else can take my place.

I use to wonder why I never had so many dates?

As I got older, I was like fuck a date,

paying for sex was the way.

For those of you that follow me,

I mentioned this in so many ways.

So many ways I can express my hate.

I hate a person that always thinks he/she right.

Thinking their opinion only matters in life.

I hate a person that’s tight

with money in their hand.

“I know people that will help a stranger

before a family member

or friend.

Loyal to the wrong person

until they are betrayed

and now back to family

they complaining expressing their hurt

and this is how life works,

the ones that don’t have it like that

will give you their last

and the ones that got it like that

are tight with it.”

It hurts because money rules the world.

I said over and over

“Loyalty push to the side when the price is right

and it been like this

way before Bob Barker’s time.”

Judas betrayed Jesus

for 30 silver pieces

way way before social media existed.

“Performing miracles isn’t impressive

because money is the real magic.”

Mind is playing tricks

falling victim to the devil’s wish

selling him your body and soul

and you just became his trick

and he pimps

you out to be worldly.

“Is worshiping God boring?

If the answer is yes

is this the reason

why more people go to hell then heaven?

How can we make worshiping God more exciting?”

Excitement comes three times,

when the dick is hard,

when the pussy is wet,

and when money involved.

Its an addiction we can’t stop.

If money was promised

to every person

that go to church on Sunday,

more people would be worshiping God.

Wouldn’t you agree?

See how this is fake pretending?

People only around to seek cheese

until you speak up and say no.

Behind your back

they make fun of the way you speak

after they take your money.

A few post back I said

“Same niggas they say

“Money over pussy”

put

“Pussy over family””.

Mothers out there fucking their son’s

right hand man to receive money in their hand.

Some mothers fuck for free.

If one of my friends

fucked my mother he dying for free.

“But I don’t have friends,

I have family.

So another words,

never trust a friend

because they can never be family.”

Friends are temporary like the temp agency.

We chase the wrong ones,

chasing the popularity.

“As a kid in high school,

was told talking to bitches

was what make you popular

because niggas want bitches

and bitches want niggas

that are popular

and being around fine bitches

is what make niggas popular.”

“High school is popularity chasing and chasing

something is a full time job

which is time consuming

and chasing too hard for something

will get you nothing”.

“Chasing too hard for something

will have trying

to pretend to be someone you not”.

It will make you look eve more corny.

Like a comedian trying to hard to be funny?

“Sometimes good things will come naturally

but we hate patience with a passion

and this destroys us spiritually

and we disconnect with God

and feel empty

like being in a relationship with somebody

w/o the chemistry.

But we get comfortable in solitary

so avoiding communicating

leads to cheating

and looking over your shoulder

to make sure you don’t get caught.

But we just students and bad experience

is the teacher but some students

don’t listen

so we try avoiding

getting caught

but being lucky isn’t guaranteed”

I will reiterate that

“Sometimes good things will come naturally

but we hate patience with a passion

and this destroys us spiritually

and we disconnect with God

and feel empty

like being in a relationship with somebody

w/o the chemistry.

But we get comfortable in solitary

so avoiding communicating

leads to cheating

and looking over your shoulder

to make sure you don’t get caught.

But we just students and bad experience

is the teacher but some students

don’t listen

so we try avoiding

getting caught

but being lucky isn’t guaranteed”

What is guaranteed?

Taxes, death

but what else is left?

Never guaranteed life

but we guaranteed

we will die the moment

you planted inside a woman.

Not guarantee to see life

some cells never make out the vagina

Some lives die inside but did God do those lives a favor?

Life is not sweet like candy

you’ll either will learn this now or later.

Either way it don’t matter

because I’m still bitter.

This is more than a long poem

I’m expressing true life emotions

and I’m doing ya a favor. I

tell the cold hard truth

and the amount of people that lie

you’ll see that the crowd is wide

like an angle that’s obtuse.

Lies we get so use to

we don’t believe it

when we actually meet a person

that tells the truth.

My poetry might not be great

but it speaks the truth

even if it embarrasses my personality.

So much to say

I have alot to say

I can write for days

while you observe the pain on my face.

My hidden emotions is my excuse

to how I became a talent poet

and I can tell a life story better than fresh prince

But what happens after I finish telling my life experiences?

So my question is, will I have another poem left in me

after this get uploaded?

I will upload a part 3 and maybe a part 4 .

Another Friday Question

As usual I have some questions that any blogger is more than welcomed to answer in the comment section.

 

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The subject of this questions deal with submission

 

22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.

  1. Now whats an example of a man leading the household?
  2. What’s an example of a wife submitting to her husband?

 

The subject of this questions deal with being dickmatized

Based on urban dictionary, dickmatized is “When the dick is so good you start too catch feelings for the guy. When really your just catching feelings for the dick. When the dick makes you say/do crazy things”

A few days ago I was on twitter and I read a thread about being dickmatized and I read some insane stories so my question is

  1. If you are dealing with a toxic man but the sex is marvelous, do you believe great sex will make it hard for you to walk out the relationship?
  2. If you are dealing with a healthy, good looking, goal oriented gentleman but the sex is very bad, will that have you thinking about exiting the relationship if the sex will never improve?
  3. Lets say if you are with a guy that’s the whole package, good looks, perfect height, a gentleman, your parents love him and he is a man of God and ya plan to live happily ever after, do you think being dickmatized by this type of guy is healthy?

 

Please comment below your answers and also after you watch this video, comment below if you agree with what this man was saying!

 

 

Another Friday Question

As a woman, would you ever date a younger man?

As a man, would you date a older woman?

They say a man reach his sexual peak around 18 and woman reach her sexual peak in her thirties, do you think this is true or do you think this is a myth?

Out of all the lessons learned in life, what was the most important lesson you ever learned?

For those of you that are married or been with the same person for many years, do you think sex is the same person becomes tedious overtime?

Question To Think About

For now on, every Friday I will be posting a question regarding friendships, relationships, sex, family, marriage, children, anything life related.

Today’s Question!

What are the pro’s and con’s to technology and is technology the reason why the divorce rate is high compared to the 1960’s?

Who Has A right To Choose?

This isn’t a poem but a question that I want you to answer in the comment section?

When a woman gets pregnant, is it the woman’s choice as far as keeping the baby or wanting the abortion?

Now most say that a man shouldn’t tell a woman what to do with her body but if the woman wants an abortion but the man wants to keep the baby and the man and woman can’t agree with each other, who do you believe has the right to make the final decision, should the final decision be made from the man because he actually wants own up to his mistakes for being irresponsible and take care of his responsibility or does the woman has the final say so because it’s her body and no one can tell her what to do with her body?

Comment below