Questions I ask as a Black Man

June 8, 2020 Understand5465 Comments

These last 2 weeks have been very emotional for me. I have been thinking hard about how much racism affects black people in America. I sometimes think what would life be like if racism did not exist but then I snap out of it because I try not to dwell on something that would never become a reality. I am going to list some questions that I have been constantly been thinking about for the past two weeks.

1) Do you think that Barack Obama becoming president helped black people or hurt black people in America?

2) After the George Floyd incident that took place, does this make you more hesitant to date or marry a white person?

3) Do you think black people need to do more to help each other and if they do, besides protesting what ways do you think black people can help uplift each other?

4) Do you think christianity is a false religon for the black man?

5) When you first learned about slavery as child, how did it make you feel?

6) What do you think black men should do to protect black women more?

7) Do you think black women as well need to do more to protect black men?

8) For anybody, do you think to becoming successful requires sleepless nights every now and then?

9) Do you ever imagine what life would be like now if Christopher Columbus didn’t come to America in 1492?

10) Do you believe that black liberals have a slave mentality that keeps black people from moving a step forward or do you think America is designed to keep black people back?

11) Do you think that black conservatives are educated people that do research and really care about the government and politicians helping the black community?

12) How do feel about Joe Biden when he said that if you vote for Trump then you ain’t black?

If you want, you can comment below your answer to one of the following 12 questions above. These are quest

10 powerful Quotes

March 1, 2020March 1, 2020 Understand546Leave a comment

1.One of the many reasons we have fear in our heart is because we hate the truth.

Hard work will never pay off if you don’t work smart because we put too much focus on the wrong area.
Negative thinking have such a powerful impact in which you can have 364 good days and just 1 bad day which can have you thinking you had a bad year.
Doing what you love for a living doesn’t guarantee a happy career if your co-workers and boss find a way you make you miserable.
No race has it easy, but black people go through the most bullshit.
Although black people go through the most bullshit, sometimes black people are at fault.
The world is becoming overpopulated so make sure you pray to God before it’s too late.
What’s scarier, being embrassed or never trying? Will you have a happier life for being embrassed for constantly trying or if your too afraid to try because your scared of being laughed at?
Don’t mistake love for addiction because there is a big difference but when we think both mean the same thing, this is when we lose friends and family.
No matter how hard life is, never give up but at times take a break. To win first place in a race, you have to train and train until your out of breath. When out of breath, you rest and recover and race the next day to build strength to make it to first place or die trying.

Out of the 10, which quote is most relatable to you?

Do women prefer nice guys or assholes?

November 3, 2019November 3, 2019 Understand5467 Comments

As a man, have you wondered what goes through a women’s mind when she get approached in public by men?

As a man have you ever wondered if women prefer to have a nice boyfriend or a boyfriend that’s an asshole?

As a man, have you wondered why you constantly get curved or put in the friend zone?

As a man, do you feel like being nice is overrated and women are only attracted to assholes?

What women really want?

Now I can’t give you a straight forward answer regarding if women prefer nice guys or assholes because not all women are the exactly same even though most women have similar wants and needs when it comes to dating. But there are pros and cons to being a nice guy and asshole and I will list a few.

Pros of being a nice guy

Nice guys are always available.
Nice guys are good communicators.
Nice guys are always there to listen when you are depressed and need to get something off your shoulders.
Nice guys will make scarifies and won’t make excuses and will always put his lady first.
Nice guys are always on time.
Nice guys don’t expect anything from a woman except for her to be herself around him

Cons of being a nice guy

Nice guys lack confidence
Nice guys are afraid to speak up when they don’t agree with something so they may lack the ability to protect a woman from harm
Nice guys are sometimes boring because they may always allow the girl to take the lead instead of taking charge.
Nice guys are too available
Nice guys are probably too straight forward and don’t know how to flirt.
Nice guys take too long to make a move or express their feelings.
Since a nice guy lack the characteristic of being in charge, most women will think the ice guy is boring in the bedroom.
Nice guys sometimes are sneaky and aren’t faithful.

Pros of being an asshole

Assholes are more confident compared to the nice guy and women love confidence
Assholes are men that can be fixed and women feel like they can change this type of man because assholes are more challenging and women love challenges.
Assholes are not always available and tend to be available on his own time in which makes him unpredictable and woman love men that are unpredictable.
Assholes are an addiction and this is why women want to be around them more
Assholes are annoying in a good way and know how to make women laugh
Assholes sometimes are nice guys on the inside behind close doors when a woman takes the time to get to know him.
Assholes are dominant and decisive and have a lot leader qualities in which make women more attractive to the asshole.

Cons of being asshole

Assholes can be too arrogant in which could turn most women off
Assholes are good for canceling plans with their significant other last minute to hang out with their boys.
Assholes are very insecure because their past has taught them that being too passive and letting other people take advantage of their kindness and letting people steal the spotlight from them, makes them jealous so they always have to be center of the attention.
Asshole have too much pride and don’t know how to apologize or admit when their wrong.
Assholes are only a phase in the beginning. Overall women do get tired with them overtime and learn to appreciate the nice guy.
Assholes do not take their significant other feelings in consideration whatsoever.

What’s my input

Now I can’t give you a straight forward answer because every women thinks and behave differently, but I can only tell you my point of view from my experience. To be honest, I don’t really like hearing the question “Why women prefer assholes over nice guys” because nice guys are not perfect. Nice guys think that being nice is enough to get a girl to catch feelings for him. I meet nice people all the the time and just because someone is nice to me doesn’t automatically assume that I want to invite that person over my house, or hang out with that person. Nice guys have a hard time accepting rejection. Rejection is promised to everybody and rejection is how we learn from our mistakes in order to move forward in life. The main problem with nice guys is that they are trying too hard to make an impression by being extra nice. This leads to unsuccessful results for two reason. When your too nice, most women will take advantage of you and will only be around your presence for financial support and emotional support, or some women will just keep it moving and move on and not waste her time with a nice guy at all so she won’t lead him on. Nice guys are always confused because the nicer they are, the harder it is for someone to tell them the truth because we believe nice people are too sensitive and can’t handle the truth. This is partly the reason why nice guys get a lot of mixed signals.

The assholes are a bit more complicated. Assholes confuse women since they tend to be unpredictable. Women want men that are dominant, decisive, confident, and know how to take charge. Assholes don’t seek validation on rather or not if the girl they are pursuing is interested in them because they know they can get any girl at any given time. Assholes know how to make a good time out of anything. Assholes know how to keep the conversation interesting. Assholes tend to be more experienced with women. Assholes actually tend to be goodhearted and sensitive people behind close doors when you take the time to get know them. But at the same time, assholes are only a phase because assholes are very insecure people when you get to know them. Assholes can be very impolite. Assholes are not capable of making the sacrifices and effort to be committed to a relationship. Overall an asshole make his girlfriend feel lonely because he tend to neglect her needs and not care about what’s on her mind. So overall an asshole can actually make a woman appreciate a nice man so much more since assholes tend to be toxic men.

So overall there are pros and cons to being a nice guy and a asshole. Nice men need to understand that being nice is not enough for a woman to catch for feelings. Nice guy need to know that when they are pursuing women, they need to focus on what they like, don’t like and speak up when they don’t agree with something. Don’t worry about making mistakes and if you want it impress any woman, just be yourself by focusing and demonstrating your positive characteristics towards the woman you are pursuing. Stop worrying about why women prefer assholes. If a woman is not interested in who you are as a person and rather be with somebody else, than that’s her problem. For assholes, remember that your personality can make some women interested being around, but it takes effort and scarifies to keep her around and don’t forget that. It’s okay to be dominant and in control because I get it, you don’t want to seem like a pushover, but remember to be respectful always and respect come first always. Stop letting your pride get in the way because a lot you assholes are so concerned about impressing your friends by being a asshole to your girl because you care more about what your friends think than what you or your girlfriend thinks. If you keep treating your girl like a second option, she will eventually leave you for somebody else that will treat her like a priority and you’ll never see it coming. Once she leaves, it will be too late to get her back(in most cases) and your friends will not give you the support that you need.

Discussion Questions

The meme I posted above, do you agree with this?
Is there anything in this post that you disagree with?
I talked about nice men and asshole men, would you like me to do a follow up and take about nice women and asshole women?
Do you believe that women wanting an asshole is only a phase or do you think that women will always prefer the asshole over the nice guy?
Do you think there is any situations where nice guy finish first?

Is it healthy to have a close friend as a Ex?

October 27, 2019October 27, 2019 Understand5469 Comments

This post is a very short post.

Now before I get into today’s topic, I saw good question on twitter. The question was “Ladies, if a dude had flowers sitting in the car for you on the first date. Would y’all say he’s doing too much?” Me personally as a man, I think flowers is not a terrible thing but I would wait until the third or fourth date. But for the women reading this question, comment below and tell what you think about this!

Now please read my last post What will My future Blogs Will Be About?.

Now is it healthy to have a Ex as a close friend?

Unless you have a child with your ex, I don’t see an good reason why a person would communicate with their Ex. I believe if somebody is still in contact with their ex, then they probably stilling fucking.

The top three reasons why I believe people still keep in contact :

They still love you
You still love them
You’re lonely

Just a few questions for you to think about!

If you just got in a new relationship and your new partner is close friends with their ex, how would you feel?
If your current partner was invited to dinner by their ex, and your current partner was willing to go to dinner with their ex, how would you respond?
Have you ever kept in contact with your ex, while dating somebody new and did the current partner know that you was still in contact with your ex?
Is it possible to have a successful relationship with your new partner, if you just broke up with your ex?
Besides the three reasons I listed above, why do you think people still keep in contact with their ex?
What if you was friends with your ex first before ya got together, now after ya realized a relationship between ya isn’t the best option and ya just rather remain friends, would you expect your new partner to accept the fact that you are friends with your ex?

Pick at least 2 out of the six questions and comment below and if you have any questions, feel free to comment!

Also come and listen to my podcast “Spoken Word“.

What will My future Blogs Will Be About?

October 26, 2019 Understand5463 Comments

Questions On Dating/Relationships/Marriages

I was on Youtube and I recently discovered this channel in which a group of young people express their opinions on questions about relationships, dating, marriage, sex and among other things. Some of these questions definitely caught my attention and I believe these type of questions are things that should be discussed with your peers. The name of the channel I’m talking about is “Krew Season“. So if you are curious about this Youtube channel , just go to Youtube now and type in Krew Season.

So for my next five topics, I will be blogging about these five topics listed below:

Is it healthy to have your Ex as a close friend?
Do women prefer nice guys or assholes?
Are men obligated to pay on the first date?
Top 5 lies Women tell?
Top 5 lies Men tell?

If if you get a chance, you should check out their youtube channel because they have a lot of interesting discussions that I believe most of us would be interested in .

Are We Meant To Be Happy?

October 23, 2019October 24, 2019 Understand546Leave a comment

Why does a heart so warm
can have such a guilty conscience?
Why does the negative
have to outweigh the positive?
Why does the potential
have to become wasted talent?
Why do good people
choose to be dishonest?
Why is it so hard to use logic?
Why can’t we control our emotions?
Why do we achieve accomplishment
after accomplishment
but still feel worthless?
Why do hearts get broken
when we are the ones
that made sacrifices?
Why do we learn the real lesson
after rejection?
Why do a honest mistake need
lots of criticizing?
Why is the demons existing
when we are on our knees
praying?
Why is it when we die,
we take our secrets
instead of exposing it?
Why do employees
provide rude customer service?
Why does a spouse have to go
through a sexless marriage?
Why does masturbation
have to be so addictive?
Why is motivation and subscription
a 1 week vacation and misery is a
lifetime subscription?
Why can’t relatives
we barely hear from
mind their business?
Why is it when we post a blog,
we can’t get comments?
Why nice men don’t get appreciated
by women?
Why do men fail to protect women by becoming abusive?
Why do we still have sex unprotected
when there are so many diseases?
Why is it when we become teenagers, we
argue with our parents?
Why is it so hard to get the book
that we spent sleepless nights writing
about so hard to get published?
Why do people that quit everything get criticized when quitting is simplistic?
Why is it so hard to take your own advice
but we expect others to listen?
Why is it so hard to follow our passion?
Why is it so hard to be dedicated?
Why are we still having children, when earth is becoming more overpopulated?
Why are so many entry level jobs require years of experience?
Biggest question of all,
Why did Adam and Eve choose to disobey God and listen to the serpeant?
Why are we meant to be happy after reading all of these questions?

If heaven was guaranteed this minute, would you still think life is worth living?

Should Women Pursue Men?

August 15, 2019 Understand5464 Comments

Should Women Start Approaching Men?

The dating environment have changed drastically over the years. Just like technology, the speed of relationships advances at a fast pace as time is moving by every second of the day. On social media, I heard seen many men post on their social media accounts stating that they believe that women should pursue men that they are interested in or have an attraction for.

To be honest, I think women should approach a man that she in interested in, rather than waiting for him to wait for him to make the first move. I can’t speak for all men, but somebody like myself likes a woman with confidence. I think it’s very appealing when a women pursue for something that she wants. This demonstrates confidence and independence. I will stop it here since I don’t want to be long winded so I have listed some questions at the end of the post for you to answer in my comment section because I am interested in hearing your opinion.

Questions

What’s your opinion on women making the first move and approaching men?
As far as women making the first move, does this make women look desperate?
Why do you think most men prefer women to make the first move?
If women was to approach men instead of wanting for men to make the first move, do you think women would actually date the men that they want, instead of responding to the men that want them?

Do people really mean it when they say “Take As Long As You Want”?

June 11, 2019 Understand5463 Comments

“Take as long as you want”,

Hmm is this statement overrated?

Even the strongest lungs aren’t perfect.

I know that has nothing to do with this,

but think about it for a minute.

Let your conscience visit for a second

and listen.

When you say “Take as long as you want”

do you really mean it?

Does patience exist forever or does it

began to vanish?

It’s hard to abandon the ones you love

or the ones that mean well and giving it

eveything they got, but

what if it never get better?

Are u going to help that person forever?

Are you going to stay around that person forever?

Do you know anything on this planet that last forever?

Well have you ever written a love letter?

After you written that love letter did you get rejected after?

Your heart just experinced a disaster.

You gave everything you got but it still didn’t get better.

Here are some provided examples:

Imagine as a woman being with a man that can’t obtain an erection.

Its the beginning of a relationship, he gets embrassed, but you work with him to fix.

But it’s almost 2 years and still don’t notice a difference.

Its still the same shit.

He visited a urologist, received cialis, but erections are still non-existent.

So in this case 2 years later, would you still have patience even though you love him?

Would you reminisce the amazing sexual intercourse from you exes?

Would start to wish that your current boyfriend had the confidence like your ex boyfriend?

Your ex-boyfriend calls you, would you reject his call or would you answer it?

Vice versa as man being with a woman that want to pratice abstinence.

She necessarily don’t want to wait before marriage, but she want you to be patient

with sex

since she had really bad experiences in her previous relationships.

Its been 3 years, you know her deepest secrets, she tell you everything about her personal busniess, you seen her in her weakest moments, you wiped the tears,

you always tell her how much you care,

ya hold hands in public, you treat her like a queen in private, you showed her that in this world, they are true gentleman, and no matter how much lust dwells within the hemispheres of your brain, you continue to remain patient agaian and again.

Hell, you barely even had the chance to caress her, and you know sex is something you been wanting to have with her, so you finally approach the idea of sex with her, telling here that you are ready take it to the next level, but she says she still don’t feel comfortable with you to take it to the bedroom, and she need more time.

You say its okay I understand , no problem that’s fine.

But is it really fine or are you lying?

Are you willing to wait 3 more years?

Are you willing to wait 2 more years?

Is this really fair?

Would you abandon the one you love even though you care?

Put yourself in their shoes and ask yourself is this true.

If you gave it everything you got but still wasn’t getting it, would you want that person trying help you abandon you?

Do you know what it feels like to have somebody give up on you?

Questions:

After reading this poem, I provided some questions for you to think about:

1) How do you truly know that you are ready to have sex with your signficant other? Is being comfortable a good enough reason to have sex or is there more to it?

2) If you boyfriend you have been with for a while, is having a hard time obtaining an erection and he tried everything from visiting the urologist and taking medications but nothing is working, could this affect your relationship?

3) Does being too patient get you hurt in the long run?

4) What is one thing no matter how hard you try that you just couldn’t accomplish?

5) Does hardwork really pay off?

Pick two out of fivethe questions that caught your interest the most and comment below?

I Am In Love With My Seductive Next Door Neighbor (Part 2)

February 28, 2019March 11, 2019 Understand5467 Comments

Before Reading This Chapter You Must Read

I Am In Love With My Seductive Next Door Neighbor (Part 1)

Through out this series just so there is no confusion, I will be doing flashbacks where I may be describing a scene between characters where the characters are describing a scene that took place in the past. I hope all of reading this will enjoy this story because I have worked hard on this and I appreciate your support.

Chapter 2

I’ve been with James(Brittany’s Sugar Daddy) for a little over two years now but we known each other for a while.

We met at a strip club two years ago and I use to be a part time stripper. Stripping wasn’t my favorite profession but it paid the bills and my moves on the pole was cold as steel, but I was getting tired of this shit.

Selling the idea of sex and projecting yourself as sexy isn’t that easy when you not always feeling the mood.

All I knew was that I needed a sugar daddy like for real.Ever since junior high, I had attention from most of the guys.

My friends told me that I would be an amazing stripper because I had the type of ass that would make the average man dick harder than a block of ice.

This type of ass and my sexy ass skin complexion is what actually gave James social life some life.

To be honest when I first laid eyes on him,I knew he was lame.He had on the type of outfit where he was dressing like he can audition for “Save by the Bell”.

His black pants was so tight, he didn’t even need a belt.He had some weird looking bright ass yellow shirt that was probably brought from Target,plus he was wearing some white sketchers that matched my bedroom’s carpet.

James dressed like shit.

But one thing I know that the average stripper don’t know is that lame guys with no type of swag always have a fat wallet.

This ain’t junior high school , this is the real world and popularity to me don’t mean shit.

I knew James wouldn’t resist because I know I’m a bad bitch.

So you know, I go to where he was sitting at and I started giving him a lap dance without his permission.

His dick grew a little like Pinocchio’s nose but when I felt it though, it felt kind of small.

Overall compared to the average man’s physique,James is pretty small.He is about 5ft4, weigh about 130 pounds.

But I’ll excuse that because I’m curious to see how much $ is in his bank account.

So eventually I made small talk with him, boosted his ego, rubbed his penis, and twerked my ass in his face.

He started moaning loud and I believed by his face expression he nutted on himself.

I almost laughed out loud and it was hard to keep my laughter in.

I was almost certain he was a virgin.

I decided to ask him if he was and when I did, he was hesitant to answer.

I repeated myself, but this time I made my tone a little more sexier.

He told me wasn’t but has very little experience and suffers from premature ejaculation.

I was almost hesitant to do this, but I whispered in James left ear and offered him to buy me a Whiskey Sour.

So he went to the bar and got me drink.

He asking me questions like what your name, where you from, how old are you, and what made you become a stripper?

After I answered all of his questions, I was straight to the point with him and told him for 100 dollars I was willing to suck and ride his cock.

I gave him a offer he couldn’t refuse even though his swag is something I don’t approve I was just using him for financial needs because he was a nice guy and a sucka.

2 Year Later

One thing I was grateful for was that James moved me from the hood and promised me everything he could provide.

He really thinks that I love him and that I will one day will be his wife,but I ain’t bout that life.

This situation that me and him got was built off of lies.He don’t even know I’m fucking Kile(Jame’s college student) on the side.

The hospital I work at is not far from where Kile lives and all I know is this nightstick is black, long and thick.

He too is a cheater like me for not being satisfied in his marriage.

But it’s not just in sex his marriage he is lacking.

So here I am two years later asking myself why am I with this lame ass n*gga?

I mean he got a lot of figures but yet has an unattractive figure.

Sometimes I am bitter and have regrets for being a gold digga when I laid eyes on my next door neighbor and I am lusting hard after this fine as brother.

Discussion Questions

If you could use one word to describe Brittany, what word would you use?If you could use one word, to describe James, what word would that be?
Can you have a successful marriage if you are married to a stripper?
Why do you think James was at the strip club in the first place?
Who do you think the next door neighbor that Brittany is referring to, is it Kile or somebody else?
For Chapter 3, would you like to hear this story from James point of view or Kile’s point of view?
Do you think James know that Brittany is having an affair his Kile, his college student?
What subject do you think James teaches at college?
Do you think this story is the prequel to my stories I written in the past “Don’t Tell A Soul(Chapter 1), Don’t Tell A Soul(Part 2), and Don’t Tell A Soul Part 3?
What’s more powerful money or lust?
Can you be happy in your marriage if you are not attracted to your spouse, but your spouse has the perfect personality that matches yours?

Chapter 3 will be uploaded on April. I will be taking a break from uploading post because I am focusing on study for my Comptia A+ certification but I will still be around to read from other bloggers so in the mean time please follow me on

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Quote of The Day- “Talent without popularity takes a while to get recognized but popularity is the substitute of the truth when the talent is lacking” – David Hockaday

Love Lost The War

February 26, 2019February 26, 2019 Understand54610 Comments

On Thursday, I will be uploading part 2 of a story that I am writing. Click the link below to read part 1

I Am In Love With My Seductive Next Door Neighbor (Part 1)

The scar on my heart is a permanent marker that don’t erase.
Emotions are flies, flying all over the damn place.
Tears was dripping down my face like wet grapes.
Forced to keep quiet like a mouth covered with duck tape.
Forced to keep quiet like a new inmate that just got raped.
A heartbreak gave me hallucinations like my weed was laced.
Like prison food, nasty like vomit but forced myself to swallow the taste.
Ashamed of my reflection, but my stiff neck force me to stare straight
to remind me of the disappointment look on my face.
A dream I that chased was a waste like leftover food when I couldn’t finish the plate.
I was frightened like the dog next door finally jumped over the gate.
Hesitant at first like I’m driving in a blizzard with bad brakes
and now regret it because it was an accident
like a rear in collision on the southern state.
Never found the antidote so negative energy surrounds my space.
No more happy days, so I no longer say grace
since my appetite escaped
my belly and you can see my face lost it’s weight
like 40 year old pregnant woman lost her shape
by gaining weight when comparing her modern pictures
to her high school days.
From love letters and heart shapes to boxes and crates.
Crying in silence with both hands covering my face
for reminiscing the times I held the left hand on romantic dates.

Discussion Questions

1. How long does it take to heal from a broken heart?

2. How do you know when your heartbroken?

3. Do you think forgiving someone that broke your heart will make you live longer?

4. Do you think more people in this world would have broken hearts if everybody told truth and spoke what was on their mind and did not hold back any secrets?