My Personal Thoughts On Cheating

This is not a poem becuase I wrote a poem “Who Cheats More Men Or Women?“about cheating already. This post is  sharing a page in my journal and in this journal, I will discuss my opinion on cheating. This blog is very long so if cheating is a topic you are not interested in, then you may want to exit this blog because you probably will get bored reading this. I didn’t plan on writing a blog about cheating but after reading a blog yesterday about cheating, I had  thoughts on my own about cheating. 

For some reason, I really am trying to understand why people cheat on their spouse/signficant other. For those of you that read my “Who Am I” post some if you already know that I am an over thinker and cheating is one of those topics where I really over think. Since I’ve been blogging for the past two months, I’ve came across alot of blogs on failed relationship stories, heartbreak stories, and cheating stories. In this blog, I will discuss and breakdown cheating in different ways.

    Now why do people cheat? So many different ways I can break this down. So many ways to look at this. People are like snowflakes, no two people are alike. We all unique in our own way. Everybody comes across different situations along their path so the outcome of a bad situation will be either a good one or a bad one. But what are some of the common  reasons why people cheat? People will cheat when they feel neglected from their partner which leads to loneliness. People will cheat because they are taking advantage of their partners trust. People will cheat becuase they are pressured from their peers to do so. People will cheat becuase the relationship is long distance and they know for fact they can get away with it becuase their partner is like 75 miles away. But a very common reason why people cheat is becuase of sex. Sex is powerful. For the love sex is the root of evil just like money. Sex is almost as powerful as money. Money too will make person cheat.
“I seen wives turn whore for the right man” quoted by Tsu Surf (for those of you that don’t know, Tsu Surf is a battle rapper). When I think of this quote, automatically money and sex comes to mind. I really believe the two most important reasons why people cheat is becuase of sex and money. Last but not least, another very common reason why people cheat is becuase people can’t let go of the past. This reason I will discuss in detail in the second to last paragraph of this blog.

   Now I am going to talk about why people cheat. Well first of all, men and women cheat for different reasons. Many people believe men cheat more than women. I feel like when a man cheats, he is automically placed in the “Men Are Trash” category but why is that? When women cheat it’s a different story. I’m not saying that people are accepting women cheating, I’m not saying that at all but when women cheat, alot of times people will say ” She was wrong for cheating but she should at least picked  a random guy instead of her boyfriends brother” or “Well she was wrong to cheat but you can’t judge becuase you don’t know the whole story.” Now why is it different when a woman cheats?

First of all let’s talk about cheating men. I am a man so this will be easier to talk about. It’s simple, men glorify other men cheating. For some reason, when a man treats his wife/girlfriend like a queen, sometimes other men will bash him calling him pussy whipped. He looks like a sucka among other men. In the previous paragraph I stated that sometimes people are pressured to cheat from their peers. This is common with men. I’m going to tell you a quick short story. There was a guy I use to work with who was faithful in his marrige. He told me and the other male co-workers about how he was at a bar and he was approached by a young sexy girl in her early twenties on Halloween. She was giving obvious clues that she was into to him and she asked him ” What are doing later on tonight and can I have your number?” His response was “I’m sorry but I am happily married.” When he told us that, alot of the male co-workers were laughing at him. Their response was ” Yo you did some sucka  shit. Why the fuck did you tell us that? Yo for now on, I’m going to call you ‘Theodore Huxtable’.” To myself I’m thinking like “Why are they laughing at him, he did the right thing? He choose to faithful to his wife.” On top of that, him and his wife were having problems but yet he choose to remain faithful. I brought this story up to show you an example of how men being faithful are looked upon as soft or weak men . So sometimes men will cheat to  for the respect and positive attention he will get from his male friends. Another reason why  men cheat is becuase of sex. Sometimes men get bored of having sex with the same person. Sometimes men are addicted to girls that are promiscuous. Sometimes men just addicted to busting an nut(ejaculating) in whoever by any means neccessary. Another quick story I will discuss.

I don’t know this guy   personally but a friend of mine use to be friends with this girl that was a little on the promiscuous side. This girl was engaged to this guy and she was in love with him. But things went sour when the guy got her pregnant. He pressured her to get an abortion. She didn’t want to but she gave in. After she got an abortion, the guy broke up with her. He broke her heart in a million pieces. She lost the love of her life and a baby. Fast forward a year later the same guy that broke this girl’s heart had a new girlfriend. But even though  he had a new girlfriend, he still remained in contact with his ex fiance and eventually he started cheating on  his new  girlfriend with his ex fiance. What made this really bad was, when he was cheating, he wasn’t wearing any protection. In my opinion I think he cheated becuase the sex was probably better with his ex fiance then with new girlfriend and he was addicted to the sex , I believe he was taking  advantage of his ex fiance promiscuous ways  becuase he knew he can get it any time, and he didn’t plan on leaving his new girlfriend so he probably figured he can have sex with his ex fiance for the time being even but since  didn’t plan on getting back with her and loved his current girlfriend he probably figured in selfish that he wasn’t doing nobody no harm. So this story is an example of how powerful sex can be. Good sex lead to cheating. Another thing that’s common in men unlike women is that a man could love his wife and kids with all his heart, never have plans of leaving his wife but will still have sex with numerous women. Prime example of this, look at the movie “Baby Boy”.

   Now let’s talk about cheating women. Unlike men,  majority of the time women cheat when they are not sastfied with the relationship. Some women want money, some women want male company, some women want spectacular  sex, some want all three and probably more  Men usually tend to only put forth the effort to make a relationship strong and healthy in the beginning. Once he gets comfortable(another words once he gets the p*ssy) he will gradually decrease putting forth the effort(especially if he knows he hittin the p*ssy good). Women love good sex but after a while women will feel like the sex is becoming reduant. I believe good sex will make the average woman patient towards men that don’t put forth the effort but after a while women will get fed up. So sometimes when women get fed up they have 2 options, either break up or cheat. A select few will break up but majority will cheat but alot times cheating is not intentional. Women get approached more often then men do so in my opinion, it’s easier for a woman to cheat. Most women don’t wake up and say “Hey I am going to cheat on my man today”, cheating is a bad decision that usually is made when a person is at the wrong place at the wrong time. Another common reason why women cheat is  they secretly still have feelings for their ex.

       Half of the time when women cheat, they will cheat on their current partner with their Ex from the past. I believe that most women have that one guy in the past that they can’t seem to let go no matter how hard they try.  Being stuck over an ex is like being addicted to an fatal attraction because most likely her ex is usually an asshole that treats her like shit. For the men that’s reading this, do you ever wonder why do women seem to go back to the same no good men that treats them like shit? Well it could be that she is in love with him and can’t let him go. It could be maybe because he has money and just only interested in the money. She could be lonely and is afraid of being single or it could be possession where she doesn’t want nobody to have him. All of these reasons are common reasons why people go back their Ex but another common reason in which people don’t bring up is  sex. What I’m about to say is something I think the average women would agree which is,  it’s not hard to find good sex but it’s rare to find a guy that’s spectacular in the sex department. I’m talking about the perfect size penis, big and thick but not too big, nice lips, nice body, very good with hands, very experienced, able to last a long time without cuming, knowing when to go back and forth between short and deep strokes without having to tell him. The type of guy that possess theses qualities in the bedroom are hard to find and if the average girl find him, she don’t want to let him go. Women do love spectacular sex, but the problem is the men that are very skilled in the bedroom are usually(not all) shitty men, assholes, douche bags, etc because they only have sex to offer in a relationship and nothing else. So this makes women very frustrated because even though women love sex they do want to feel appreciated. Now those you of reading this, are wondering what does this have to do with cheating? I will explain.  If sex is all a man has to offer then this can cause alot of problems. Now for the women reading this, have you ever had a boyfriend that you argued with all the time and you knew the relationship was unhealthy and you would leave him but after a couple of weeks past you end up going back to him? If you did go back to him, was one of the reasons going back to him was because the sex was spectacular? After breaking up with your ex, have you ever quickly jumped into another relationship to help you move on? When you got your new boyfriend, was you happy or was you starting to miss your ex boyfriend twice as much? If you was missing your ex boyfriend what was it about your ex boyfriend that you was missing? All these questions that I’m asking one after another do you see where I’m going with this?

Women(as well as men) will sometimes search for a new soulmate when heartbroken just to be happy again. They think finding a new boyfriend is their escape from the past. But 95% of the time when your heartbroken it’s because you still in love with your ex so your ex will be on your mind constantly. So because of this, women will compare their current boyfriend to their ex in every area and it will be almost impossible  for the current boyfriend or any guy for that matter to compete with the ex.   
So now all it takes is a phone call or text from your ex for her to cheat. After that one phone call or text, she will start to miss him more and more. More than likely  the no good ex will sweet talk her feeding her bullshit lies talking about he miss her and he wanna see her again. Now she will play hard to get and act she don’ t miss him telling him she’s found a new man  but the ex could see right through that bullshit lie and will use charm and persuade her more and more. The more he persuade her, the harder it is for her to resist until she finally gives in and meet up with him. In her mind she thinking “We just gonna talk for a half an hour and that’s it.”  Once they meet up, she will be a little hesitant and nervous because deep down she misses him but yet still don’t want to make it obvious. The ex will try his best to make her comfortable and he will move closer so he can make his move. Slightly touching her, complimenting her on her looks which makes her so  vulnerable to the point that sex is on her mind. She will remember all the times her and the ex had sex in the past and how good and experienced he was. Sex will began to conquer her mind and control her body making her horny tricking her into thinking that no man can ever compete with her ex. She is now stepping back in familiar territory and she has now found her comfort zone. The ex will read her body language and take advantage and make his move. All it takes is one kiss. Once the ex kisses her, 9/10 times she will completely give in and stop resisting which leads to cheating. More than likely she will have sex with her ex and realize that maybe she can work things out with her ex. Great sex will change a person’s mind in a heartbeat. What I just explained is a very common reason in which why  women cheat but I feel like most people don’t bring this up or don’t want to admit it.
        I’m going to summarize this blog and talk about how to avoid cheating. Alot people automically assume if you cheat you trash. On Twitter every I’m reading a tweet about your automically trash if you cheated. Everybody on Twitter swear they are loyal. I’m gonna tell you this, most people cheated at least once but most won’t admit it. The ones that didn’t cheat sone of them haven’t been in a situation where they had the option to cheat. It’s easy to avoid cheating when your approached by somebody you have no feelings or attraction for. But once your in a situation where your approached by someone your attracted to or started developing  feelings for, is it really easy to avoid cheating? Cheating is dead wrong never an excuse regardless but it’s not always easy to resist. Also people need to stop judging people. If someone cheated and you don’t know the whole story or situation, then you can’t automically assume the cheater is a piece of shit. Get the facts first before you determine that. There are a select few of people that never have and never will cheat no matter what. For those of you that avoided cheating (especially when the person was attractive) you definitely have my highest respect.  For those that find it hard to resist cheating, well here some tips to help you stay faithful

1.  Don’t be selfish breakup and move on if your unhappy in your relationship
2. Never let your peers pressure you to cheat because if you cheat and you get caught and your signficant other leaves you, those same  peers of yours that encourage you to cheat will not be there to support you
3. If you still have feelings for your ex, do not get into a new relationship until you are completely over your ex.
4. Once you break up with your ex, delete his/her number and move on. Don’t answer their phone calls.
5. Don’t cheat if the sex is wack. Communicate with your partner and try to work with your partner. If the sex doesn’t improve at all then you break up with your partner, not cheat. To be honest I don’t even think that wack sex is a good reason to breakup with your partner but it’s better than cheating
6.Now sometimes cheating does happen on spur of the moment and if it does, at least wear a condom. The worst thing is to have an affair and not wear a condom.

I will repeat this, cheating is wrong no matter the situation. If you got cheated on, don’t ever give your signficant other that cheated on you a second chance. Cheating is wrong but some cheaters are worst than others and sometimes when we don’t make scarfices or put fourth the effort in a relationship to make our signficant other happy, you can lead your signficant other to cheat. We all want happiness but some of us just look for happiness in the wrong place at the wrong time.

    
    
       
              

What About Men?

 

 

  Two days ago, I wrote a blog about my views on women

(click link below if you haven’t read my previous blog)

(“What makes A Woman A Slut”). 

I know a few of you that follow me have read my previous blog and requested a follow up blog on men. This was my most challenging blog. In this blog, I will talk about my opinions regarding men and how they are judged compared to women. Not only will this blog talk about men with high body counts, it will talk about how men are judged, and what’s places men in the “Niggas ain’t shit category”.

We can agree that women are judged in many ways and one way she is judged is by her body count. For those of you that don’t know, a body count is the amount of people you had sex with. People will classify a woman with a high boy count as a slut, thot ,hoe , hoe ass bitch, skank and many other names. But like many of you that are curious to know, what about men? What are men labeled when their body counts are higher than football numbers?

Unfortunately, in this society men with high body counts aren’t  judged harshly like women that have high body counts. The reason why women are judged more harshly is because women with high body counts are judged harshly by both genders. Men on the other hand, are only judged harshly by women when having a high body count.  Men usually glorify other men when they have such an enormous amount of bodies. Most men actually want a high body count because  most men believe a high body count could make him more popular and give him more confidence.  I don’t judge a man or woman off their body count. It’s more than just a high body count to determine rather a man or woman lacks morals. Now I am going to talk about how men are judged compared to women.

Now as I said, men with high body counts are usually praised upon by other men. But a lot of men in this world are considered “Fuck boys” or are placed in “Niggas ain’t shit” category.  According to the average person, this is why men labeled as  fuck boys or placed in the “Niggas ain’t shit” category?

  1. A man that’s just want’s pussy and have no intentions in being in a relationship
  2. A man the cheats on his wife/girlfriend

Now let’s break this down and I will explain why men that just want pussy are judged. A fuck boy is a guy who doesn’t respect women, yet relies on her heavily for one thing. He is a guy who is distant, doesn’t care about a women’s time, self-absorbed and is never looking for anything serious relationship wise. Women want sex just as much as men do, but women(not all) want men to respect them. Respect comes first and a fuck boy doesn’t respect women because his only interest is to gain access to her private territory by any means necessary.  But if a man is only interested in looking for sex, but still respects women is that a bad thing? If a man just wants sex from a women he is attracted to, does that automatically means he is disrespectful to her?  Men aren’t judged by the number of bodies, but they are judged for just only wanting sex. When a man just wants sex and nothing else, the average woman will define him a fuck boy and place him in the “niggas aint shit” category. To be honest I don’t see nothing wrong with a man just only wanting sex from a girl he finds attractive if he’s honest to her. I believe you can be a gentleman if you are only interested in having sex and not commitment. The problem is people in society automatically assume a guy is a fuck boy if he rejects commitment but only wants sex. As I said in my last blog, you don’t need to be relationship to have sex.  Also just because a man cheats on his wife/girlfriend does not automatically define him as a fuckboy. You can’t judge a man if you don’t know him. Until you know the reason why he cheated, or why he is only interested in sex and not commitment, don’t place him in the “Niggas ain’t shit category”  Shortly I will discuss  some factors that defines a man as fuck boy and the factors that places him in the “Niggas ain’t shit” category but before I do, I will briefly discuss another thing that women judge men harshly on.

 

 

                                       Wack Sex 


A lot of men will relate to this. Now I understand women don’t want a boring sex life but women judge men who are inexperienced very harshly when it comes to the sex department and I think that’s unfair. What confuses me is women will complain about fuck boys just wanting sex from them, but will dump the good guy in a heartbeat if he can’t satisfy her. Let me explain something, women hate “WACK DICK” with a passion. Women hate “SMALL DICK” with a passion. But why? Why judge a man on what he doesn’t have no control over? Sex can be taught it just takes a little practice. Bad sex should not be the only reason why you should leave or cheat on your partner. Inexperienced men get judged more harshly than inexperienced women when it comes to sex.

 

 

   I will now discuss what are the seven factors that places men in the “Niggas ain’t  shit”category”                    

                                     

                                                           Take a look at this list below


  1. Being a deadbeat father
  2. Lying to a woman in order to get some pussy
  3. Believing a hoe can’t turn into a housewife
  4. Acting tough with a woman, but don’t do nothing when another man is in his face
  5. Having an affair with your homie’s girl or wife
  6. Disrespecting his mother
  7.  7.A rapists

                                               Being a deadbeat Father


Being a deadbeat father to me is the 2nd worst on the list. Why the fuck would you bring children in this world if you have no intention of taking care of them?  To all the women that are having sex, be careful who you are having unprotected sex with.  Hell half of these men don’t even that they have kids that exist in this world. Some of these men will have sex with multiple women unprotected but don’t check themselves for STD’s. As a man you need to take care of your children. Every child has the right to know who is father is. Now there are deadbeat mothers in this world and they are just as bad. I believe deadbeat fathers are judged more harshly then deadbeat mothers (everybody may not agree with this) . Have you notice that Mother’s day is more popular than Father’s day and have you ever wonder why?

                                         Lying to a woman in order to get pussy


Why do men have to lie in order to get some pussy from a girl he want to fuck? Why can’t men just be honest and tell women what they really want instead of lying to them? Men will lie and make all these false promises to the girl he is talking to telling her he wants commitment , meanwhile he is bragging his homeboys, spreading his sexual business about how good he hitting it. Women aren’t sex objects.

 

                                      Believing a hoe can’t turn into a house wife


I use to believe that a hoe can’t turn into a housewife as well. But I realized, it was ignorant for me to accept this logic. You can’t judge a person if you weren’t in their past. Not saying that it’s acceptable to be a hoe, but a lot of promiscuous women are depressed and use sex as in addiction to escape the misery in their life(I will talk more about this in my future blog)

 

                          Acting tough with woman, but don’t nothing when another man is in his  face


Some men are so quick to act tough with women, calling them out their name, even physically fighting with them but won’t do a fucking thing when a man gets in his face. This type of guy is a pussy. Women do the same thing. They will act tough with men, calling him out his name, getting in his face but won’t do a fucking thing when another woman get in her face.

 

                                       Having an affair with your homie’s girl or wife


You ain’t shit if you fucking your best friend’s wife or girlfriend. You lack morals, provide no loyalty, and a fucking snake. Women that are fucking their husband’s best friends are just as bad.

 

                                                       Disrespecting his mother


No man should never disrespect his mother. Nothing is more powerful that a mother’s love. Your mother made so many sacrifices for you. Let me explain something to the men that disrespect their mothers. When you get your heartbroken, your mother heart is broken. When your baby momma kick you out the house and fucking other niggas, your mother will let you stay with her until you land on your feet. When you drowning in bills, and child pay is killing your pockets, the only person that’s gonna give you money to help you survive is your mother. Most of these girls you messing with don’t give a fuck about you. Never ever put another woman before your mother. Your mother is number 1.

 

                                                                       A rapist


This is the worst on the list. I hate a rapist. Rape is worse than murder. If you ever raped a female, forget being place in the “niggas ain’t shit” category you deserve a life sentence in prision.  I won’t go into detail because I will write a blog about this in the future.

 

 

 

In the future, I will write two more blogs about sluts and fuck boys. I will discuss how women become sluts and men become fuck boys. This blog and as well as my previous blog, talks about what defines a woman as a slut and what defines a man as a fuck boy. But it’s important to know how and why men and women become this way. Thank you for reading and if you have an opinion, comment below