Prayer Is The Secret

I just wan to give a shout out to Whistlingbeautiful for giving me to the motivation to write this blog. I read her blog yesterday (click here)‘I’m not ready for a relationship’ – he says  and it was very releatable and a eye opener and I enjoyed reading it.


  • Now about this question I am about to ask, think about the person who gave you the best sex ever from your past, now think about the person who gave you the worst sex ever from your past, think about the personality of the person that gave you the best sex, think about the personality of the person that gave you the worst sex ,for those of you that have siblings, if your younger sibling had to marry one your past lovers and it was your choice who would you pick for your younger sibling?

    Have someone ever told you that, you have to let it go?

    I’m talking about when someone hurt you, I’m talking about when someone broke your heart.

    Have someone told you to try not to think about?

    For all the people that been hurt before,  when your hurt you are always going to remember the pain you will never forget it. But you not forgetting , teaches you the mistake that you made or the wrong someone has brought upon your heart helps you to avoid those same better mistakes. So I tell you this, it’s okay to think about the person that hurt you. It’s okay to miss the person that hurt you. You fighting your emotions, someone telling you to try and not think about someone or something will make you think about that person twice as much in which will make you naive and end up taking the person back which will open the little pieces of your heart to  be broken in half once more. Now your heart went from being broken in half, to being broke in 4 pieces. Heart is getting smaller and smaller. Instead of trying not to think about it, let the emotions flow, let the negative thoughts occur and allow time and God to handle everything. Remember this, no matter how hard you have it, somebody always have it worst than you. So another words, go online and read stories on how people got their heartbroken and see if you can relate to people. You will hear some fucked up stories.  Learning that somebody always got it worst will help you.

    If you do decide to date right away after a bad breakup, please tell the partner you seeing that you are not completely over your ex and your are not sure if you are ready to step back in the dating world. I highly wouldn’t recommend having sex with anybody while your heart is broken because having sex with another person will make you want to have sex with your ex even more and more. This happens about 90 percent of time. The other 10 percent chance is you might use sex as your healing factor and think sex is the solution when sex is really just a temporary painkiller which will lead to bad decisions by getting attached quickly and becoming bind to the new person you are seeing or make you become promiscuous. Now as far as thinking about sex when your heartbroken, I honestly don’t know what to say to help you from stop thinking about sex from your ex or missing the sex from your ex or anybody else. Only thing I can say is just pray about it. There is no remedy that will heal your negative thoughts except prayer. I am going to repeat and write this in a bigger font

  • There is no remedy that will your negative thoughts except for prayer

  • Now if you do make the mistake and have sex with your ex, I guess just pray harder or try and look for a negative or consequences of having sex and remind yourself the devil is trying to lead you into sin.  One thing you can do, no matter how good the sex is with your ex, there is always somebody better in that department. Just pray that one day you will meet a good man or woman with the right personality that loves you for you and bring spectacular sex to the table. Don’t let good sex interfere with your mind.

  • God loves all and want to protect us.
  •  God want us to go to him to be forgiven for sin.
  • The devils’ job is to lead us into sin.
  • When the devil attacks he attacks in kindness leading you into temptation
  • It’s not easy to resist the Devil
  • More people will go to hell then heaven
  • Most of the people that will go to hell tried to resist the Devil but couldn’t
  • God is Love
  • Devil is the addiction/fatal attraction


Fornication is a sin. I never understood why for so many years but it’s starting to make sense to me. I’m going to preach to the women because I think women go through this situation more so than men but this is for men too. For the typical girl let’s say about 20 or 21, she wants to feel love, she wants the appreciation and the attention from a nice gentleman. Women don’t like being lonely. On average, women get approached daily. Mos of the guys that approach them well, let’s just say words can’t describe how unclassy most these men appear. Eventually she will come across a guy with a nice smile, a guy that’s the perfect height, a guy that dress nice. Overall he’s attractive. He approaches her with words that are poetic, respectful, and yet flirtatious and she loves every minute of it. Eventually he gets her number, and they talk some more. He ask her out,  they converse in public and she is catching feelings and the feelings get deeper and deeper slowly. This is guy has a charm that no player can match. This girl feels lucky and maybe slightly horny but still nervous. He makes his move and his confidence is perfect and she feels lucky to deserve this. Now sex is not really on her mind much, but as he gets closer, she can’t resist him. She figure ah what the hell, I don’t know him that well but this guy is different so I will allow him to do whatever he wants with my body. Eventually clothes is coming off, and she is impressed with what she see’s when he is naked. I won’t get too graphic but he rocks her world like Michael Jackson. She now realize while they are cuddling ,she is  in love. She goes home and she can’t stop thinking about the sex, feeling like on top of the world like Muhammad Ali. Now the guy goes home and brags to his homies how he just smashed another chick and how he got her sprung. In fact he probably will smash another chick. So as time moves forward, this young girl and the guy still hang out from time to time but the dates become less romantic. He not contacting like he use too. It becomes to the point that all they do is talk for  a few, have sex and that’s it. If she’s lucky, he may spend the night but he still respectful to her and listens to her in person, but the phone call conversations, and text messages, well he is becoming rather distant. Eventually  the more she has sex with him, the more she gets addicted. I’m talking about, she cuts class, lie to her parents, call out of work, buy him sneakers and durags, bake him brownies just to prove her worth to him to show him how much she loves him. So eventually she decides to she wants to introduce him to her family and friends but he doesn’t think it’s a good idea.  She writes him a long paragraph explaining how she feels about him and want to take things to the next level. He says he is not ready for  a relationship right now at the moment. He just broke her heart. She get confused and angry and ask all these type of question asking why this and why that. So that night she cries her self to sleep and promise herself she will move on. She does miss him, but she goes on an online dating app and eventually meets another guy. This guy is fairly attractive, respectful, not as charming as the other guy but he is straightforward and nice. They hang out for a few times. The 1st two or three times she is into him but after the third date, she compares this guy to the previous guy. She realize how much she misses the previous guy and starts to think about the sex. So eventually she makes the first move and invite the new guy over or it could be in a car and they have sex. She thinks having sex will replace the thoughts about the previous guy but all this this do is make her miss her ex even more and more. After having sex, this new guy opens up to her and tells her he wants to be with her. She just smiles and listen but deep down she is not really feeling it because the previous guy got her mind poisoned. Eventually out of no where the previous guy hits her up, she plays hard to get but eventually she ends up cheating on the good guy to have sex with the previous guy and the sex is the bomb. I miss you sex is the best and she realized she need to be with him. So end things with the guy to be with the previous guy. But things don’t get better they get worst. Either he gives her an STD or get her pregnant.  You guys get the point, do you see how the Devil work?

  • Read this scripture

    I consider that what we suffer at this present time cannot be compared at all with glory that is going to be revealed to us– Romans 8:18

    I’m not the holiest person, I don’t go to church, I don’t pray everyday like I should, but I always believe God has a plan for everybody and God has helped me through hard times. Sometimes I do feel like people(myself included) use God because we usually pray when we are in life or death situation or will give God a weak thank you when we achieve something big. I do lust, I did fornicate, I did lie, I did steal(nothing serious), I am lazy but one thing is I am never arrogant and I am 95 percent willing to help people, I don’t get jealous and so don’t brag about my accomplishments and I pray to God in secret. So I thank God for my strengths and help me with my weakness. Nobody is perfect.

    Also for those of you reading this, you don’t need to comment I just ask just to read this slowly that’s all, no comment needed.  I will upload my second half of the story of how I got my heartbroken. Click hear to read the first half I Will Never Forget My 25th Birthday (Part 1)
    No need to comment on this blog but you can comment on this question I am going to ask next

    What’s a favorite blog of yours do you want me to read so I can check it out right now so I can read it?
    Again no need comment on your opinion on my my blog but send me a link of a blog you want me to read in the comment section

22 thoughts on “Prayer Is The Secret

  1. I think your right, prayer is the answer. I’ve sin so many times that I feel I’m not worth being in any relationship anymore.

  2. I totally can relate !! Spending time with God and getting to know our Heavenly Father makes all the difference . I used men for sex to feed my emotional insecurities but it just causes more damage. We try to make it out to be something that it’s really not. Not having sex for over a year and really reading the word of God and praying has helped my mindset a lot. Sex kills a lot of things before they even start . It’s a false hope of something that doesn’t even exist . We have sex for a whole bunch of reasons but at the end of the day sex is not the answer, God is

  3. As long as this post is? You took the words right iut of my mouth. I am glad my write up this week inspired your post because so many girls/ladies don’t understand or rather dont have the knowledge of how to handle matters of the heart. Running up to the next man is never the answer, prayer is the answer. It is key. Keep writing, keep sharing, people don’t have enough time in their lifetime to make the mistakes others have made so sharing experiences is necessary. God bless you.

  4. This article is deep and completely Relatable, I have alot to say but I would just say few, your decision matters in every relationship you are in, I’ve been in couple of relationships where I’d do more for the man and little or nothing would be done to me like how? Then I realized I wasnt a priority in his life and trust me sister I left the relationship, was hard at first but facing it made me strong, although my heart is guarded, I practised cause that was the only way for me to heal. Thanks for sharing.

    • I appreciate your comment your it means a lot to me. I”m glad I can relate because I try to relate to people as much as I can . Your strong minded and that’s a blessing. Keep having faith and always go with your instincts

    • Thank you bro. That story is an example of what people go through.
      I’m going to explain something, a lot of times when somebody keeps going back to their no good ex over and over, it’s true it’s because they do love them but as well if the sex is good, that will make them vulnerable but people don’t admit that. I talk about the things that people don’t really admit. Good sex usually comes from the most fucked up people or at least people that don’t have your best interest in mind because fornication is a sin and the devil want us to sin so good sex will blind thinking that’s everything you need when it’s just breaking your hurt in the long run

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