“we can’t change the world unless we change ourselves”

I had no intention on uploading a post today but after reading It’s just another choice …. comment  on my post Do I Perfer Strippers?Women Got Me Fed Up  it motivated me to write this post. Her comment was so sincere and so honest so I give her my appreciation for writing this blog . I am going to be straight forward and truthful in this blog and check out her blog when you get a chance. Now the quote “We can’t the world unless we change ourselves” came from biggie smalls in the Notorious B.I.G. movie that came out in 2009. I applied to this quote to women. In this blog I am going to talk about the women’s mindset in this blog and I am not placing all women in category.

Now before I talk about women, I just want to say I already wrote a blog What About Men? in which explains my definition of men that are trash so I’m not being biased in this blog. I came across a few blogs and some tweets on Twitter for the past couple months. Now I notice this trend about men being in “Men are trash”, “Men ain’t shit”, “Niggas ain’t shit” category. I have read blogs ,tweets, and other stories on social media explaining the reasons why men are placed  in the “Men are trash” category. Now in my honest opinion, I honestly think  this is very useless when women do this  because complaining about men on social media does not solve anything. I don’t  get offended but it’s just why go on social media and complain and start a trend “Men ain’t shit” because someone broke your heart? Social media don’t give a fuck about your problems but I get it, you upset and you want to express yourself and that’s fine. But when women say “Men are trash” some men will get offended because that trend make it seems like men as a whole are all trash that’s why some  men actually respond and say “not all men are trash maybe you messing with the wrong guys”. Now what get’s me annoyed though is when women say “Men who say not all men are considered trash because real men understand we are not talking about them”. This logic make no type of sense whatsoever. I will break everything down.

The reason why I think it’s useless when women complain on social media because majority of them are doing that for attention so other people can comment on their post, tweet, etc. Now when a female gets her heart broken, I understand how she feels and yes its going to be natural to say that “Men are trash” I get it, but still no reason to go on social media and promote this throughout social media. Complaining about your problems does  not do anything but make the problem worst, its how you go about solving them. To solve a problem is to learn from your mistakes. Now this is where the “We can’t change the world unless we change ourselves” quote come into play. A lot of women  will complain and expect to receive some type of sympathy when a man breaks her heart but just like how men hurt women, women hurt men too. I’m a man and I got my heart broken before, I’ve gotten ignored before, but how would you  women feel if I was to go on social media and say “Women are bitches”, wouldn’t you get offended? Wouldn’t you think I was talking about women as a whole?  I’m gonna be honest, some women are bitches but not every woman in this world is a bitch and nor will I ever call a woman a bitch. When I got my heart broken I was angry and yes I did say “These hoes ain’t loyal to my friends”, I did say “Women are fucked up”, I did say “Never trust a bitch” but I did not go on social media to complain about my women problems because, 1) social media don’t give a fuck and 2) not every women is a bitch, not every women is a hoe. I spoke to close friends about my problems, I went to a therapists, and most importantly I thought about all the mistakes I’ve made and realize that I didn’t use good judgement. So another words, I was trying to learn from my mistakes. Women should do they same instead of starting this “Men are trash” trend. Now I know some of you are thinking “Well its different with women because women don’t get the type of respect as men do” and that’s true I understand that. But if you women want they same type of respect, if you want men to respect you, ya have to learn to respect each other. Men do call women bitches and it has to stop, but women as well call each other bitches. Hell women refer to themselves as bitches. You know how many times I heard women say “I’m a bad bitch” when referring to themselves? A shit load of times. Another thing that women do is slut sham. Men as well slut sham, but women do it more. To be honest, it be the sluttiest women that be quick to judge other women. Women have  to raise their standards a little higher and use better judgment. Majority of women seek men with men with money,popularity, and fame.  Now there are a select few of women that do want a honest, working man that will treat a woman like a queen but majority of them will ignore the good guys. Most women won’t admit this but most of them think good men are lame, boring, cornballs, etc so that’s why they seek the popular guys. Women will string the good men along, use him,  and ask him for advice regarding men(this is a big one). I swear women do this, they have that one guy friend that they not really into but will call him or text him as soon as she needs advice regarding the man she is chasing.  The man she is chasing as usual is playing games ignoring her and she calls and ask for advice  to the good guy. The good guy obviously knows the type of guy she is chasing doesn’t have good intentions. So good guy gives advice to this girl and she listens. She even goes as far and say that she appreciates the advice that was provided, thanks the guy  saying she appreciates him, and says that she is done with the guy she is chasing. But guess what, like 2 weeks later, her and that guy that she supposedly said she was done with are talking and  hanging out again. For those of the guys that’s reading this and wondering why this always happens? Well I won’t go to deep into the reason I am going to provide but a lot of times  good dick will interfere with a woman’s judgment in a negative way.  Another thing I don’t understand is women will give up the pussy to the worst type of guys in a heart beat. Women will give up the pussy to a guy she never been on a date with, but yet expect him to commit. Now why would a guy take you out on date and spend money on you if you already gave him some pussy? It’s one thing if you just want some dick which is not a problem, but if a guy calls you out your name, doesn’t spend time with you, haven’t claimed you as his girlfriend, never took you out on a date, why would you give him pussy? More than likely he will eventually end things with you, telling you that he seeing someone else or he will just completely ignore you for good. Let me tell you a little secret,  8/10 times when he said he started seeing someone else, the person he seeing was his girlfriend before he met you. You was just a side chick all along. But a lot times side chicks don’t know that they are side chicks until it’s too late. So yes women get hurt bad because of this. But if women use better judgement, a lot of them wouldn’t be in this situation. But anyway the women that do end up in this situation, only a small portion will move on and learn from their mistakes. Majority of them, make more bad decisions. Some women will get jealous  and try to destroy the relationship between the fuck guy and his girlfriend by blowing his spot up. Usually they not blowing up the fuck guy spot up because they are looking out for is girlfriend, they blowing his spot up because they are jealous of his girlfriend.  Some girls won’t even mind being a side chick anyway and will purposely try and get pregnant by the fuck guy to trap him or hoping her getting pregnant will make the fuck guy wanna leave his girlfriend.  Some girls will try to find a new guy to talk to ,to make the fuck guy jealous and this is stupid because the fuck guy don’t care. Besides even when the side chick gets a new man or string somebody else along, more than likely she will still let the fuck guy smash.  Another thing is(and this is a problem for both men and women) a lot of ya are having unprotected sex. Now yes I know unprotected sex is better than using protection so yes I get it, an unexpected pregnancy happens or you catch an STD, shit happens nobody perfect, but a lot of women don’t learn their lesson and will still fuck guys unprotected. These type of actions is why some women have a hard time finding Mr Right. Usually(not always) these are the type of women that go on social media and say “Niggas ain’t shit”. Another thing I have to add, when women finally do get a good man, they give him hell sometimes. Like he can do everything right, be a gentleman, spend money, take her out on dates, all her friends like him, he’s intelligent and it still won’t be enough.  These type of guys have a harder time and go through more bullshit. These be the type of guy that gotta wait like 3 months or more to get the pussy. Now everything is not about pussy, it’s not  I swear. One  more thing is, if a guy treats you like a queen, make sure you having a good day, knows when to give you space when your having a bad day, knows when to communicate with you, compliments you, somewhat attractive, and shows that he wants to be in your life, why do you got to think about it? Why does he got to be in the friend zone ? Why does he got to wait forever just to have sex with you? You see ya too busy complaining about the trash men, but ignoring all the good men. Now do you understand why good men say “Not all men are trash” because good men go through so much bullshit.  Here’s another thing, a lot of men that are trash were once good men. What happened was your typical good guy got his heart broken really bad which turned him into a savage. When a man gets his heart broken it’s because he didn’t see it coming because the girl he was dealing with seemed like a sweetheart that changed and switched on him. With women, a lot of times the guys ya deal with that break your heart, he gives obvious signals that he is playing games or cheating but sometimes ya do ignore the signals hoping that he will change or that you can change him. Let me tell you something, you can’t change a guy that’s not willing to change himself. Another thing ya complain about is fuck guys just wanting to fuck and fuck guys  being disrespectful and I understand where ya coming from. So why is it when you find a guy that has a good job, respectful, eloquent speaker, not afraid to make decisions, plans ahead, affectionate, and not afraid to brag about you to his friends and family, why would you leave him or cheat on him if the sex is not good? Now as a far as leaving him this one is tough one because I know nobody don’t want to settle with somebody with wack sex and sex is important so I kind of understand why a woman would leave but at least give him time to improve and see if he is willing to get better first. But a lot women will break up with a guy in a heart beat if the sex is wack. Women do judge men harshly if he is a one minute man or have a small dick. But truth is  some of these women ain’t  all that that in the bedroom neither. A lot of ya can’t even handle a guy with a big dick, some of ya aren’t the best when it comes to giving head, some of you aren’t all that developed. Now imagine if your boyfriend broke up with because you can’t give good head? Imagine if a guy broke up with you because your ass and breast are small? Doesn’t that sound very shallow? At the end of the day it’s like this, Good sex will make a unhealthy relationship stretch, and bad sex will healthy relationship crumble. As fucked up as it sounds, this tells you how powerful sex is. Sex should not be more powerful than loyalty and commitment. Another thing that I heard is they say the best dick come from a broke man or a man that ain’t shit and a nice guy always got wack dick. I don’t know how many of you heard of this, I heard of this  quite a few times. This logic is a little ass backwards. The only way you can tell if a man is good in the bedroom is to actually have to sex with him and get to know him and understand him in that department. Another way you might be able to tell(and even this is not guarantee) is if he knows how to dance or if he exercise. Sex is about rhythm and dancing is about rhythm so more than likely he probably knows how to move and have control of his rhythm providing spectacular  strokes. That’s why Jamaican are very good in the sex department lol.  A man that exercises makes his heart healthy which will increase blood flow to his penis which gives him firm erections that can help him to last longer in the bed room.

I’m provide an example of a TV show. For those of you that watch Power, you know James St Patrick AKA Ghost and Tasha St Patrick. Ghost cheated on his wife and he was wrong no doubt. A lot fans criticized him for cheating and called him a dumb ass for cheating. Now a lot of people think Tasha is a ride or die. Tasha is not a ride or die I don’t care what nobody says. Tasha cheated too. In fact she technically cheated first. Look at season 1 episode 1 and you’ll see what I’m talking about. Ghost is a drug dealer that’s trying to go legit but Tasha doesn’t want him to leave the drug game. She isn’t loyal to Ghost, she is loyal to his money but yet she is a ride or die which makes no sense. I won’t go too much into but if you watch season 1 of power you’ll see what I’m talking about.

We do have trash men such as Donald Trump and Bill Cosby. But what about Black Chyna? What about Scottie Pippens  wife? In fact I gonna say something reckless. For those of you that watch porn(don’t judge me lol) it’s a lot videos you’ll see women blowing another guy while on the phone with her boyfriend. Quite a few videos.  On the Maury show , some women come on the show swear they know who the father of her baby is but get sad when she finds out the dude she thought was the father is not. Now I’m not trying to judge but why would you have unprotected sex with more than one man at the same time? At least wear a condom.  Just another thing, I gotta question for the men, have this ever happened you know where you was speaking to a female for a little while and  ya was getting close then all of a sudden she stop responding to your text, then all of a sudden like 4 months later  she text you “Hey stranger”? You see what they do is they string you along until her ex start acting right again so she’ll forget about you, then once they stop talking, they hit you up and think they can just come back to you like nothing ever happened.

My point of this blog was to show you that just like men, there are trash women as well. Women play games as well. The problem is society portrays men as trash but never bring up the dirt that women do. This is for the women that say “Men ain’t shit” when men say “not all men” it’s not because we are guilty(not all of us) it’s because we know the bullshit that good men go through. When ya say “men ain’t shit” it does sound like you are speaking about men as a whole. How would you feel if men started a trend and said “Women are bitches”? You know goddamn well you would not like it.  Just to say this, yes I know women aren’t treated equally like men and it’s unfair. But there are times when things do work in your favor and men are at a disadvantage.  Court for example, the judge normally favors the women over the men as far as child support.  Single mothers get  a lot of credit and they deserve all the credit because being a single parent is hard but what about single fathers? Single fathers don’t get as much credit as single mothers do. Females are coldhearted  just like men. In fact I know females that told me they rather be around guys because it’s too much drama with females. Women are spreading this “Men ain’t shit trend” but females don’t even respect each other. Females don’t get along with each other. Now men should uplift women, but how do you expect men to do that if women don’t uplift each other? One way is on March which is women’s history month, both women and men should uplift each other. Women want men to uplift them but it women have to uplift each other as well. Women need to hold fuck boys accountable and stop making it easy for them to get pussy. Women need to acknowledge and admit that women hurt men too and that both men and women are trash. Stop blaming men for everything.  I highly wouldn’t recommend women spreading the “Men ain’t shit” trend over social media because the trash men aren’t the ones that say “not all men” , they are usually (not all) liking your status agreeing with everything your saying or just laughing at you because he know he gonna get pussy from somewhere else so he don’t care if you think he is trash. As I stated previously, you are not wrong for feeling like men are trash when your heartbroken, but seek therapy,  allow yourself to heal, mentor to teenagers to not make the same mistakes that you did, realize that a relationship will not give you happiness if you not happy with yourself, when on these dating sites try to focus for one guy at time, maybe even two but not highly recommended to talk to more than 3 different guys at once, stopping depending on the online dating is the only solution to meeting people, learn to be more friendly in person, and put God first in everything you do. Think of all the choices you made, now ask, if my daughter made the same choices I did, would I be proud of her? Remember “We can’t change the world unless we change ourselves.”

24 thoughts on ““we can’t change the world unless we change ourselves”

  1. Major props and mad love for this article my man, every point touched and every nail hit right on the head. Men get slammed by women because they make themselves look like the victim and they do it so well. Don’t get me wrong, a lot of men out there deserve the trash that are smeared but like you said, the attention seekers are the problem makers and it’s sad. Men do put up with a lot of unnecessary drama but the ones who can actually move on from it without striking back are the real men. Unity is where it’s really at. Another real article that I had to give love to. Keep it up my man.

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      1. It’s on my blog, no worries, though. 😉 Nice laughing with you again for a bit. I was gone over the summer and just got back a few days ago. Oddly, you popped into my head when I wrote a thank you post when I got back. I gotta hit the ol’ sackaroonie. Have a good one! 🙂

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    1. This comment means alot to me. I just want to thank you for understanding. Funny thing was that I didn’t plan on posting this up but it was alot to talk about.
      Like some men are trash but some women are worst then the men. Instead of blaming each other, we need to work together.
      I always appreciate the support from you bro
      Much love!

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      1. You write so real and I love reading your blogs, you come correct. I’m glad you did post it.
        It’s true, some men are garbage pail kids but like you said, the women are horrible and they try to hide it which makes them even worst. All about unity, it’s beautiful when they can come together and realize they’re on the same side.
        You always have my support my man, one love!

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  2. A lot of men are trash just like a lot of women are trash. I speak to women all the time and tell them to take a look at themselves . At the end of the day, a woman that’s whole can notice a man that’s “trash” before she even gives him a chance . We just love to play victim at times. If you want to attract a better type of man , be a better woman . Women that can’t appreciate good men have issues within themselves and just may not be mentally/emotionally ready for a good man. Our psych is crazy , I love learning about this stuff and it all makes sense ! Lol as a broken women I dated a whole bunch of bums 😂 as a woman that’s whole now , I know who’s for me and who’s not. I have standards and I stick to them and trashy men are a turnoff now but I loved them before ! Like you said , “ we can’t change the world unless we change ourselves” 🙌🙌🙌

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    1. I appericate your comment and thank you for reading
      I agree with everything you said.
      This particular topic is something that’s on my mind constantly.
      There are trash men and trash women and both men and women need to change for the better

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