What Makes A Woman A Slut?

Please read before you criticize this blog and assume I am judging women.

This was a topic t I was a little hesitant to post up. But I decided to go with my instincts and post this blog up anyway. I feel like some people can relate to this blog. Now I am not slut shaming any woman at all so if anybody get offended by reading this blog, just comment below and I will  apologize  and I will try my best to explain the meaning of  this blog. In this blog, I will talk about promiscuous women and why women become promiscuous. This is just another topic like any the other topic. Some people will agree with me, some people won’t. I have question (this has nothing to do with blog I am going to talk about)  I am curious, have you ever had somebody commented on your blog that criticized your opinion? Isn’t it annoying when people criticize your opinion or beliefs? It’s okay to disagree with people but at least listen and respect their opinion. If somebody’s blog is offensive to you, then just stop reading it and move on to the next blog.

 

 

What makes a girl a slut?

 

A long time ago, my friend and I had a discussion about promiscuous women and why they act the way do and what makes a woman promiscuous. Many believe a high body count makes a girl promiscuous and  I agree to an extent. But I started thinking and I came to realize that there are other factors that come into play when determining what makes a girl promiscuous.  The definition of a slut is a girl who has many casual sexual partners. If I ever become a father in the future, I would raise my daughter and brimg her up with good morals becuase I wouldn’t want my daughter to be labeled as a slut. I believe women should be selective in who they are having sex with. I was thinking, if a woman doesn’t want to be in a relationship but still wants to have causal sex with other men, then I don’t see the problem with that as long as she is using protection. I believe you do not have to be in relationship if you want to have sex because there is a difference between catching feelings for someone and having sex with someone. I believe you don’t need to have feelings for somebody to have sex. So my point , is a high body count enough to determine if a woman is a slut?  Everybody have their opinion regarding that question, but to me I don’t have a straight forward answer to that question so I am going to break my answer down.

As I said in the previous paragraph there are other factors that come into play when I determine what makes a girl a slut.

  1. If she has been pregnant before
  2. If she has caught an STD before
  3. If she slept with somebody that’s more than twice her age
  4. If she had more than 2 one night stands
  5. If she has a habit of sleeping with married men or men committed in a relationship(knowing they are married ahead of time)
  6. Of course obvious, if her body count is more than half her age
  7. Out of her body count, more than half of those men were men she wasn’t in a relationship with(This one is 50/50 because this one is not necessarily mean nothing)

 

Out of the seven that I mentioned above, if a woman can say yes to at least four of these things then that will determine the type of girl that she is. A pregnancy does not automatically  assume that a girl is a slut because unplanned pregnancies happen in marriages all the time. So I don’t want anybody to think that I am judging. A married woman can catch an STD.  An STD does not automatically assume that a woman is slut.  I believe that everybody is entitled to at least two one night stands, now if you have more than two, then I believe  that you make reckless decisions when it comes to sex, but  reckless decisions doesn’t automically define a woman as a slut. If a woman has a habit of sleeping with married men or men that are in a committed relationship, then I believe  this  is slutty behavior which demonstrates that she probably  lacks morals. No woman or man should not sleep with someone’s else spouse. Now if you only had sex with a married man and you knew ahead of time that he was married, then I believe you need to reevaluate your morals and standards. If you  slept with more than one  married man or a man in relationship more than once(key statement “more than once”) then you just don’t care and you are living reckless.  Number 6 and 7 are the ones I am going to go into full detail.

 

As I stated earlier many people believe that a high body count is what makes a woman a slut and to an extent I do agree. But I also stated I do believe a woman don’t need to be in a relationship to have sex with men.

Picture this scenario and tell me what’s more disgusting. You have 2 women,  Vanessa and  Joyce.

Vanessa is 27 and never been in a relationship. She been on a few dates occasionally , but she likes having sex because she has a high sex drive. Her body count is 24 and out of the 24, 23 of those men used protection. Only one  guy she had raw sex with but the one guy she had raw sex with, gave her an STD. She got checked out got rid of the STD and now she makes sure she uses protection with every guy she has sex with in the future. 

Joyce is 30 years old and she is currently single. She has been in four relationships. In every relationship she is known to have pregnancies scares, one of her ex  boyfriends gave her an STD, but  her body count is only 8 men. She been in four relationships so that’s four bodies, the other four  bodies are men she had casual sex with. Out of the four men she had causal  sex with, one is married with 3 kids, the other is engaged ,and she is currently having sex with both of them. Once in a while(not often) they don’t use protection. Not only that, once a month she still have with sex with her ex  from the past that gave her an STD   and he never uses protection at all and on top of that he has a girlfriend. Joyce only has eight bodies. Joyce body count is a lot lower than Vanessa but Joyce is more reckless because of the amount of unprotected sex she had. Vanessa body count is much higher, but 98% of the time she is careful with who she sleeps with and she only have sex with single men. If she did have sex with a married man, then she didn’t know the man she was having sex with was married. Now my question is, between Joyce and Vanessa who do  you think lacks more morals and who is more promiscuous?

 

This blog I admit is very unfair, but so is racism and politics. Life in general is unfair. A lot people will get offended but before you assume I am judging really read this blog and think about it because this is our reality. People only want to hear the truth when its positive or it’s something in their favor. I wrote this blog to really show people that it’s more than just a high body count to judge a woman. A low body count does not mean a woman is classy.  I also believe that a woman with a high body count can have the potential to be a good mother and a good faithful wife/girlfriend.  By the way I know the majority of my followers are women so just to let you know, it’s no double standard because men too lack morals as well and I will write a blog about that in the future as well. If you want to comment on this go right ahead, but the comments are optional. If you don’t feel comfortable expressing your opinion then you can keep your comment to yourself.  But please read and understand before you assume I am judging or slut shaming.

34 thoughts on “What Makes A Woman A Slut?

    1. If your asking if social media have made it worst then to answer your question yes social media influenced women to behave inappropriately. But also music, technology and cost of living has affected the way we behave.
      Divorces are more common now then they were in the 1970’s. Back then it was more common to get married and people actually wanted relationships.
      Now it’s more common to have sex rather than being in a relationship.
      Because of technology, social media have developed and music changed compared to the 1970’s. Social media and music glorifies sex. Internet made it easier to achieve sec through back page and Craig list
      Salaries is not keeping up with the cost of living which also makes it harder for people to get married and makes life more stressful and this too is a reason why sex becomes common.
      Sex is cheap or sometimes free which requires no effort compared to a relationship.
      Think about this for a while because everything I mentioned goes hand in hand on why women can potentily become promiscuous

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    1. That’s true woman get judged when she sleep around.
      But men get judged too tho.
      He not considered a slut if he sleeps with alot of women, but women do call him a” fuck boy” and some even say “all men are trash”. So in a way men get judged too tho.
      Lol nobody can’t handle truth

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  1. I enjoyed reading your post, but personally I have no interest in trying to define a woman in this way.

    I high body count is none of my business, as long as the sex is consensual, therefore in my opinion nothing makes a woman a slut, if she lives in a modern society that allows her choice.

    But I enjoyed reading your post, but will you follow it up with your thoughts on men too?

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    1. Thank you for your comment I appreciate you reading this blog.
      This particular topic is reality and all I’m doing is talking about a reality that’s common.
      I don’t get in a woman’s personal business nor I don’t ask her how many people that she has sex with.
      That is her business. Every female has a choice to make and even though I am not judging anyone, I still believe that both men and women should have standards for themselves that they should live by.

      I appreciate your comment and eventually I will talk about men as well in the future

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  2. You have a nice idea but I think you are constantly repeating yourself, going about the same thing over and over
    You have several spelling mistakes, you could thoroughly edit your piece
    I never knew what a body count is so thank you😊

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    1. Well I do appreciate your comment.
      Most of my blogs I write on the spot.
      Sometimes I can be impatient and tend to upload without proofreading. Most of my blogs, I write within 15 to 20 minutes. But I do agree, I do need to proofread and edit some of my blogs. So I thank you for pointing that out to me.
      I believe I have may repeated myself when writing this blog but to be honest I think this blog(besides the grammatical errors) is very well written and organized. No two people are alike and we all have different styles and ideas when it comes to writing.

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  3. I think men should be judged by the same standards women are judged by, which I don’t happens in society at large. This is partly due to stigmas about sex, specifically, women enjoying and wanting sex – it’s acceptable, unless they’re interested in a different man, at which point they’ll become a ‘slut’. Meanwhile, men tend to be regarded as players, studs, etc. The number of notches on a bedpost is seen as a mark of power and dominance. There’s a definite double-standard in society.

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    1. This will be a long response.
      “I think men should be judged by the same standards women are judged by, which I don’t happens in society at large.” I completely agree with on this. But unfortunately life is not always but I agree with you.
      “This is partly due to stigmas about sex, specifically, women enjoying and wanting sex – it’s acceptable, unless they’re interested in a different man, at which point they’ll become a ‘slut’.” Again I agree with you, but in my blog I’m talking my point of view about a woman being slut. I did say in the blog that you can’t judge a woman just and atomically assume that she is slut just because she has a high body count. A woman or a mna with a high body is not exactly a good thing but that doesn’t mean they lack morals because I believe you don’t need to be in a relationship to have sex. I believe a woman can have sex with whoever she choose if she is single as long as she is using protection. In the blog, I talk about a scenario between Vanessa and Joyce . That scenario is an example of me trying to explain that a high body count or having sex with different men don’t always mean that a woman lack morals. It’s than a high body that determines if a girl is a slut. I wrote a list in the blog that are signs in I think which can potentially lead to women lack morals. A single woman that’s pregnant and a woman that catches an STD doesn’t automatically categorize a woman as lust because married faithful women can have a unplanned pregnancy and catch an STD as well. But here is the thing. If a woman that’s single got pregnant before, caught an STD before and still having unprotected sex(keyword unprotected)with various men, then I going to be honest she definitely need to reevaluate her morals.
      ” Meanwhile, men tend to be regarded as players, studs, etc. The number of notches on a bedpost is seen as a mark of power and dominance. There’s a definite double-standard in society.”
      I completely agree with this. There will be a double standard in society. But hear me out on this, there are situations in which men get judged more harshly then females.
      1. Cheating
      2. In court

      When a man cheats , automatically a man is considered trash. Cheating is never acceptable but if you don’t personally know the guy that was cheating or until you know the whole situation you can’t automatically assume he trash. Don’t get me wrong a lot of men that cheat are trash but not all. When a woman cheats, it’s a different story though. Them same people that say men are trash for cheating, will say “Well she was wrong for cheating but we shouldn’t judge her because we don’t know the situation. Besides if men were more willing to pay attention to their girlfriends, then girls wouldn’t need a reason to cheat”. Facts.
      Women do get judgement when they cheat, but men get judged more harshly then women do when they cheat.
      Everyday somebody is on Twitter tweeting “All men are trash”
      Whenever a marriage couple goes to court, all of time the judge favors the woman over the man even if the woman is wrong.
      Example this guy( let’s call him) “James” had sex with his girlfriend but before they met, the girl recently in another relationship. To make a long story sure, this girl was pregnant but not sure who the father was. The father too was in doubt when the child was born but he still signed the birth certificate. After him and his girlfriend broke up, he had to pay child support. Two years later he decided to get a paternity test. Come to find out, the child wasn’t his. But the problem was he signed the birth certificate so the judge ask the girl, do you still want James to pay child support. She said yes, knowing James wasn’t the father. On top of that, this girl already moved to Florida and was married to another man who had more money than James, but yet still made James pay child support. Now since James is not the father, why does he have to pay child support for a child that’s not his?
      I brought that up to tell you that men don’t get judged like women do when it comes to having a high body count but men get judged harder than females in other situations. Life is never fair.
      I wrote a blog “What about Men” this explains how men are judged and what makes them trash. There are a lot of men that lack morals as well.
      Reason why i posted this blog, because this is a reality. I am not picking on women. The word slut is in the dictionary. At the end of the day we are all labeled as something negative by someone.
      Slut is just a negative word just like any other negative word like snitch, racist etc. Some people think it’s wrong to call a woman a slut but not all women is classy and neither are men.
      At the end of the day I’m just talking about reality so that’s why I picked this topic to talk about.
      In the future I will talk about why and how women become sluts. This sounds very negative I know, but sometimes we don’t understand where a person comes from and this blog will really explain how or where they live there lifestyle the conditions that they do. I feel like this is important for people to understand but everybody will not agree .
      I appericate your comment and I truly apologize for this long response and sorry if I bore with this comment. I had a lot to say about this.

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  4. I made some grammatical errors so I will fix them

    “I completely agree with on this. But unfortunately life is not always * fair but I agree with you.”

    “It’s * more than a high body that determines if a girl is a slut.”

    “A single woman that’s pregnant and a woman that catches an STD doesn’t automatically categorize a woman as a slut* because married faithful women can have a unplanned pregnancy and catch an STD as well. ”

    “Example this guy( let’s call him) “James” had sex with his girlfriend but before they met, the girl * just got out another relationship.”

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  5. Women that have a lot of sex with a lot of different men is a sign that there’s deeper issues, just like men that have sex with a lot of women have deeper issues as well . Sex is an easy way for people to feel wanted and loved without really being wanted and loved . I think it’s gotten to the point where people just don’t care no more and everybody is sleeping with everybody because they’re “grown” and because we long to fill a void with sex but anyway good post lol I love this topic but People don’t really like talking about it

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    1. I appericate your comment. In the future I am going to write a blog on why and how women become sluts so people can really understand the mindset of a girl that have sex with various men. Just because a women is a “slut” don’t mean she is bad person. It does demonstrate that she lack morals but why? Before we judge we have to understand where people are coming from

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      1. I totally agree !! I’ve been called all types of names , had numerous one night stands , dealt with a couple married men, and had sex with a lot of men that I barely knew , I was in and out of relationships but they were all unhealthy relationships and if I wasn’t in a relationship I was always with somebody … did I like the sex? Yes . did I like the attention? Absolutely. But the behavior itself , the way I went about it was self destructive within itself , does everything I been through make it okay? Absolutely not , but it was how I coped with life . This is why I don’t judge women or men , because most of the time there’s a whole bunch of undealt baggage that causes us to act a certain way.

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  6. This is interesting. I suppose my opinion is that I don’t believe in calling women sluts or promiscuous. As your blog has shown, there can be many factors as to how and why women have sex, so to label these actions at all is useless. I say, just be careful, no matter how you engage 😉

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    1. I respect your opioion. There are many reasons why women have sex but some are worst than others.
      I respect that you don’t believe calling women sluts and I understand your view. Some women do lack morals in this world. Some men lack morals in this world. Now I’m not slut shaming or make fun of anybody whatsoever. This blog is me trying to provide a demonstration of what’s going on in this world.
      Now I won’t lie, depending on a woman’s actions, I do think some women are promiscuous. But just becuase I think a woman is promiscuous doesn’t mean I will look down on her, make fun of her, or think she is worthless.
      Not everbody in this world has class or morals.
      The factors I listed in the blog to me aren’t useless becuase people in this world will judge a woman quickly off of one thing and the factors are the things woman get judged by. In the blog I mentioned that one thing on the list doesn’t guarantee a girl is promiscious but when there is behavior of reckless decisions
      Apologize for the long response and I do respect your opinion

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      1. Oh okay I understand what you saying no doubt. You are right.
        Only reason I wrote about this becuase some women do be having sex with married men unprotected, fucking there bestfriends boyfriends and some brag about that.
        So I guess those women I’mreferring to as promiscuous.
        Believe the husbands just as bad.
        I understand what you mean now and I agree

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  7. When you talk about morals, it’s a tricky thing….everyone has different morals/values/beliefs. I don’t think you should judge another person just because their actions don’t agree with your ideas of how that person should act. Much of our morals come from how we were raised and the society we grew up in. Everyone has a unique point of view depending on their personal experiences. Adults make decisions and face consequences, whether it’s pregnancy, std’s, loss of a marriage, or maybe no consequences at all… What’s the point in judging and labeling? There’s so many other things that are more important to talk about than other people’s sex lives, well when it’s in a negative manner….please feel free talk about sex all you want in a positive way!

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    1. I’m not judging nobody though. I’m not specifically talking about a specific woman’s sex life. You said there are some many other things to talk about besides people’s sex lives when it’s in a negative matter. People on here talk about rape, cheating, death, how men are trash, child and abuse which are all negative topics. This is just another topic I wanted to talk about. Believe or not not this topic is important. Now many people don’t like to label women based on sex but in this blog I’m not really slut shaming. I didn’t say sluts are bad people that don’t deserve happiness because I don’t how or why people make the decisions that they do. People will not agree with everything I say. There are going be times I will not agree with my followers say and that’s okay because we are all different. In the blog I said I’m only stating my opinion.
      In this world every topic has a positive and a negative side.
      I too also wrote “What About Men” and that too talks about how men lack morals. When men are talked about and judged all the time in a negative way and nobody says anything. Now I’m not saying you do this but in general when women are talked about in a negative then people are quick to disagree and say Women should be respected or women shouldn’t be judged.
      Also I too wrote a blog 2 weeks ago “I love women (but this for black women)” blog which uplifts women

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