How To Save Your Marriage (Part 6)

Now this image right here is what I found on pinterest. But please listen to me, this image is bullshit. No marriage is perfect and if you follow this, your marriage will collapse. I will break this down each step.

1) Kiss your spouse is not necessary at all. You should only be allowed to kiss your spouse on the cheek and that’s it. You don’t know where your spouse lips have been so kissing should not be allowed.

2) Putting all electronics away before bed is insane. Like this world is ruled by technology and focusing on your phone or any other electronic devices is an excellent way to save your marriage because it will help you avoid arguments and you can avoid your spouse personal space.

3) Now I do believe you should praise your spouse but keep your prayer in secret. Don’t tell your spouse that you are praying for her.

4) Only do something nice for your spouse if you have to because you don’t want your spouse to get use to this and take advantage of you.

5) It’s best not watch sports with your spouse because your spouse may ask too many questions about the players amd it will annoy the fuck out of you.

6) Never after sleep naked. Always slepp with your clothes on. You should only be naked in the shower alone.

7) Day dates are not needed because the dates are only for relationships only. Plus in the day time, that’s the time for the elderly people to enjoy themselves in public. Don’t be selfish, let the elderly have their fun now and you will have your time when you reach 70.

8) Romantic comedy are good but only watch romantic comedy movies with your friends, not your spouse.

9) Sending flirty text is so junior like that’s immature. If you love your spouse that much, then pray for your spouse and give then personal space.

10) The only time you need to text your spouse is if it’s an family emergency. If your apouse text you just to see how u doing, politely ignore and leave your spouse on read.

11) If your spouse comes to your job unexpected or suprise you at a public place anywhere without letting you know, I would strongly suggest asking your spouse for a divorce.

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How To Save Your Marriage Part 5

I have a book coming in the summer called “How To Be Save Your Marriage”. I have worked hard writing this book and now I finally found a publishing agency that will accept my work and I am so happy right now. When you work hard and remain patient and don’t give up, good things will come.

My book entails 101 tips on what to do and what not to do in order to be a good husband but in this blog I will list 13 main points I focus on in book

1) Calmy explain to your wife that wedding anniversaries are overrated and that its not necessary to celebrate them.

2) Tell your wife since you as a man pay the mortgage, she had to do all the driving.

3) Tell your wife that she can not wake you up in the middle of the night for sex and if she does, you will ask for a divorce.

4) Tell your wife that its not necessary to hold hands in public and that’s only in the dating stage.

5) Tell your wife that you don’t want her to submit because you aren’t her father and you believe in equal rights and she can be head of household.

6) Tell your wife that spending is not necessary because the kids comes first always

7) Tell your wife that she has to only cook for the kids because you will eat at your mother’s house.

8) Tell your wife that your mother comes first and that if your mother need you, you have to be there for her.

9) Tell your wife that you believe oral sex is extremely disrespectful and it should never happen and that foreplay is not necessary.

10) Tell your wife that you and her can’t be naked at the same time in each other’s presence. Hell, she can’t even been seen in bra and panties in your presence and she must go to the bathroom and lock the door to get change.

11) Tell your wife that she must ask you permission at all time before she give you a kiss.

12) Tell your wife that sex will only take place in the bedroom behind close doors only once a year.

13) Tell your wife that you won’t be affectionate around her and that its not necessary to caress her.

These are the key pointers to save any marriage and I wish everybody a prosperous marriage.

My feelings on black people using the word N*gga

The n*gga word is a cancer and I have used it.
It’s an addiction and I have to stop it.
I won’t lie, in this poem will be honest.
I heard this in R rated movies and rap lyrics.
I love rap music and always will.
Some lyrics are so cold, it gives me chills
and I’m being for real.
There are a lot of black men I look up to,
like Martin Luther King, Barack Obama, Kobe Bryant, Leborn James, there are many more
but I’m just naming a few.
The one black man I admire the most is Malcolm X.
He stands for what he believes in, a strong Muslim that fought for black independence.
Sometimes I wish he still existed and was still living.
I wish I had half the heart that he did.
Because in the 1960’s in America, it was a lot of racist shit back then.
The world was violent for African Americans
and Blacks were outnumbered by the educated whites but Malcolm still choose to fight.
He tried to fight the black man war in America
and I can’t even show up prepared to my own battle.
It’s so sad though thinking about what this world have came to.
I wonder what would Malcolm would do?
I wished he was still alive.
Now in the fourth line of this poem,
I stated ” Some lyrics are so cold, it gives me chills
and I’m being for real”.
Listening to hardcore rap is a good feel
but yet and I hate to say it, because I don’t like to judge other men
but rap has increased the ignorance.
This is old news.

For years gangsta rap has been in the news.
Now I believe almost all rappers mean well
and I get it, its business and they have to make record sales.
N*ggas, bitches*, gunshots, these words in rap lyrics sale.
I’m guilty of using the word ‘n*ggas’ and referring to women as ‘b*tches’.
Truth be told, words have the power to build and destroy, its an addiction.
I was listening to a few Malcolm X speeches, and I also saw a youtube video of his daughter speaking(I will post a video below) about her opinion on the n*gga word
and it made me think.
I want to be a strong black man, but I can’t unless I get rid of my demons.
The negative words I have been using for years.
Now the slang definition of n*gga
N*gga – A word that only black people use to call there homies if a white person uses it they are some deep shit.
Forget about the word n*gga and think about it like this.
How can you get mad about something somebody else do or say to you
if your doing it yourself?
This question I just asked is a poison that not came out the closet
because we only care about how we treat ourselves but not others.
This world is full of hypocrites.
Now nobody is perfect, and like I said, numerous times I have said ‘n*gga’
but I must stop it and I will pray I never use this word again.
Now maybe not all black would agree, but I’m just saying what I believe.

There are plenty of black intelligent people that are capable of achieving many things that use the word “n*gga” on a daily basis but in this world, sad to say, but you barely get judged by what’s in your heart and by  your actions, but very quickly you  get judged by what you have, what you wear and what you say.

Now everybody is welcome to comment on this

Should black people use the word n*gga?

Please look at this video below:

Death Tried To Follow But Couldn’t Keep Up

My mind is desolate
my world is dark as its ever been.
It feels like death follows me.
I tried to remain nowhere to be seen,
but I’m being stalked to death
by death.
He knows the size and shape of shadow
and he didn’t use a measuring tape.
Should I dig my own grave and drift to other side?
Is it time to end my life, should I commit suicide?
Jump off NYC buildings, shoot full metal jackets, drinking bleach, or starve myself to death
before I become next.
I don’t run away, I refuse to get chased
but I’m too arrogant to get slayed
by deaths name
so should I put myself in harms way
by my own hands, I think this too myself
while drinking straight liquor without a chase.
Forget the precious creation of my face, I’m running out of time and death
just jumped ahead to second place from eight place.
Death shall not win my race, I will always be first place.
This is my race, I created the track, death just runs on it.

Do people really mean it when they say “Take As Long As You Want”?

“Take as long as you want”,

Hmm is this statement overrated?

Even the strongest lungs aren’t perfect.

I know that has nothing to do with this,

but think about it for a minute.

Let your conscience visit for a second

and listen.

When you say “Take as long as you want”

do you really mean it?

Does patience exist forever or does it

began to vanish?

It’s hard to abandon the ones you love

or the ones that mean well and giving it

eveything they got, but

what if it never get better?

Are u going to help that person forever?

Are you going to stay around that person forever?

Do you know anything on this planet that last forever?

Well have you ever written a love letter?

After you written that love letter did you get rejected after?

Your heart just experinced a disaster.

You gave everything you got but it still didn’t get better.

Here are some provided examples:

Imagine as a woman being with a man that can’t obtain an erection.

Its the beginning of a relationship, he gets embrassed, but you work with him to fix.

But it’s almost 2 years and still don’t notice a difference.

Its still the same shit.

He visited a urologist, received cialis, but erections are still non-existent.

So in this case 2 years later, would you still have patience even though you love him?

Would you reminisce the amazing sexual intercourse from you exes?

Would start to wish that your current boyfriend had the confidence like your ex boyfriend?

Your ex-boyfriend calls you, would you reject his call or would you answer it?

Vice versa as man being with a woman that want to pratice abstinence.

She necessarily don’t want to wait before marriage, but she want you to be patient

with sex

since she had really bad experiences in her previous relationships.

Its been 3 years, you know her deepest secrets, she tell you everything about her personal busniess, you seen her in her weakest moments, you wiped the tears,

you always tell her how much you care,

ya hold hands in public, you treat her like a queen in private, you showed her that in this world, they are true gentleman, and no matter how much lust dwells within the hemispheres of your brain, you continue to remain patient agaian and again.

Hell, you barely even had the chance to caress her, and you know sex is something you been wanting to have with her, so you finally approach the idea of sex with her, telling here that you are ready take it to the next level, but she says she still don’t feel comfortable with you to take it to the bedroom, and she need more time.

You say its okay I understand , no problem that’s fine.

But is it really fine or are you lying?

Are you willing to wait 3 more years?

Are you willing to wait 2 more years?

Is this really fair?

Would you abandon the one you love even though you care?

Put yourself in their shoes and ask yourself is this true.

If you gave it everything you got but still wasn’t getting it, would you want that person trying help you abandon you?

Do you know what it feels like to have somebody give up on you?

Questions:

After reading this poem, I provided some questions for you to think about:

1) How do you truly know that you are ready to have sex with your signficant other? Is being comfortable a good enough reason to have sex or is there more to it?

2) If you boyfriend you have been with for a while, is having a hard time obtaining an erection and he tried everything from visiting the urologist and taking medications but nothing is working, could this affect your relationship?

3) Does being too patient get you hurt in the long run?

4) What is one thing no matter how hard you try that you just couldn’t accomplish?

5) Does hardwork really pay off?

Pick two out of fivethe questions that caught your interest the most and comment below?

For Relationships/Marriages

Below I have three questions for everybody that’s in a relationship or married. The first 2 questions were asked by my girlfriend and I liked these thought provoking questions.

If you were single and had one shot left at love would you choose your Ex at least knowing who you’re dealing with or gamble and pick a “Next”, a person who could be better or worse than the last situation?

What are topics between us that you think would be difficult to bring up or talk about with each other? Us specifically or between couples?

If you just started dating somebody, is necessary to speak to your significant other on the phone everday? Also could you be in a relationship with somebody that rather text than speak on the phone?

Pick one question out of the three that caught your interest and comment below your answer!

I Destroyed The Old Me

A version of me will be different completely.
The keyword “will” becuase I’m still trying.
All I know is I need a change, but don’t know how.
So many times been knocked out to the ground.
Life is about about angels and demons.
Demons , we think of a 1/3 of rejected angels that follow Satan.
Evil smiles with pitch forks beings causing havoc,
but disgiused in music with explicit content, unprotected sexual intercourse, weed smoke or any drug even cigarettes.
An great feeling becomes an addiction thats unnoticeable,
but it makes you feel noble.
Pain in life is global, and to a certain extent, we are all spolied.
This is a sample of what I been going through.
I been negative since a child in elementary school.
I wrote so many poems that expose dark secrets in invisible journals.
I no longer want to be a slave of life, I want to be a colonel.
I had the arrogant mentality, saying to myself
“Lord I deserve you”
but I realized this type of thinking will have the lord curse you.
I need a new sin washed away, and I will began to pray.
I can’t express it yet because I’m not ready to,
but lord knows a change is overdue.
I’m my own worst enemy that ambushed myself into misery.
If I don’t change now, no matter how many accomplishments accomplished, I will face defeat.
In the future I just saw a sneak peak and I learned there is a slight difference between failure and defeat.
Failure everybody goes through, but some will get defeated and destroyed.
Failure can be temporary if we fight for the future.
Success almost feels impossible and this couldn’t be any truer.
So allowing the enemy in you destroy yourself seems much easier.
So how to go against the odds and rise above?
Do I drown myself in a white tub
to wash the sins so I can pray to the lord above?
Well I’ll start with acknowledging my fears and weaknesses
and I’ll continue writing for the next 30 minutes
until 9:36.
I try my hardest to give a fuck, but people make me not give a fuck.
Life is no training program, you learned your lesson after you fuck up.
Who do you trust? I mean people change their character like a street fighter video game when money involved.
Working hard, but its not really about working hard.
Hard workers die younger and younger everday.
Life becomes harder everyday.
I always thought when life gets harder, you work harder.
But nah, its about working smarter.
Your brain is a muscle and overtraining it won’t make it grow faster, it just delays the process.
I have so many accomplishments on hold, I’m delayed in the process.
But I’m learning to stop making excuses, I just have to do it.
I refuse to be destoryed by my own enemy, even though I’m clueless.
But I know the tools handed to me was by a demon since I tend to be oblivious.
But its not gonna work this time, becuase even though I am thrown to the wolves, I will acknowledge my common sense.
Common sense is all about survial of the fittest
and I will survie the earthquakes and reduce it to a thunderstorm
so when I witness a dark cloud, I will no longer complain
becuase the sunlight is apporaching soon, I just need to be patient.
Just a few more minutes while writing this poem in a moment of silence.
I need a moment of silence because I just destoryed my final demon.
But if you are wondering why have a moment of silence for a demon, its because in the good book, we are taught to love our enemy.
Kill then with kindess and be friendly.
Sometimes I do feel the world is against me, but I know God is with me.
I no longer have fear, I can do anything.
For example, this thought provoking poem I wrote just now within 40 minutes.
This is day 1 of the rest of my life.
I will now allow the lord to fight my battles for the rest of my life.
I will be the best version of myself and now with the lord on my side, I am ready to fight.